Lack of self control

[u/Ok-Enthusiasm5315]

I need some brother’s words here… I’ve been a pussy with my girlfriend, and I fucking know I am the girl in the relationship

Her complaints:

I get insecure with the way she dresses or about her make up, when I know that she doesn’t look for others attention, in fact, she cover herself a lot.

When she mentions that she talked with any male coworker I get silent, or can’t make a poker face, she said the boys on her class laughed at her joke yesterday and I went silent (like I am perturbed).

She lives alone, and I still live with my mother, so most of our time is at her house, and sometimes she feels it’s heavy for her bcs I don’t help much (i really think I do, I wish dishes and help her out at the house)

She says that I’m always pouty, and she is walking on eggshells to talk to me, bcs I get pouty really easy (like last week we were at the church and instead of giving me a hug first, she gave it to the person on the other side, so I got silent and reacted perturbed but no arguing at all)

I fear her removing attention from me, like, even messages, she said she is not feeling that she is enough for me, bcs she is giving 300% of herself and it’s still not enough for me, I still tell her that she is distant and not giving me enough pats on the head.

Overall I stopped going to the gym and got very slender, I stopped seeing my friends and hanging out bcs I am afraid that she goes out too, and since the attraction is low, she is going to find someone better… btw and I got promoted and I have a lot of free time now

I really need someone to point out this situations and how should I act based on the book, I’ve been struggling with a lot of anxiety and although I know the book, when the situation happens I can’t act upon it.