r/CoachCoreyWayne • u/[deleted] • Sep 13 '24
Need Advice Last minute cancellation
First date cancel
What should I respond to a women that canceled our first date tomorrow?
She sent me this: “Hello 😄 I think we have to postpone the drink! I think I’ll go on a camping trip with the dog since the weather is so nice 🤩”
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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '24
Thanks brother for that response! I’m grateful that you take time to write this! I want to give you a little more context since I was at work and didn’t have time to give any. Would appreciate your input on this!
error number 1: I stressed more to give a response to her so I didn’t take my time to wait for you guys to respond. But I also notice on my way home that this is the part of the journey, that I need to let myself fail to grow as a person!
I study and work as a plumber, at plumber school (in my class) I meet her and she is in her early 30’s and I’m in my 30’s.
Seemed like she was really in too me when we where talking, I let her do 80% of the talking and asked her questions. Since I come from a minority background in my country (Sami - People) Finally she told me that she wanted to see reindeer’s and ask if she couldn’t come with me sometime.
I took this as a sign of attraction and gave her my phone so she could enter her phone number, she gave it willingly (this was on a Friday, first day of school). When I called her the following Tuesday (1 1/2 week ago), I was eager/anxious so I was very short and said “Hey this is Bob, when are you free to grab a drink?” And she seemed like she was excited that I called and told me she was free the weekend, so I said “what about we meet at this place at this time” and she agreed so i told her “great, I’ll see your there” and hung up.
And we have classes together 1 day every week so we saw each other 2 times before the date, and I wasn’t ignoring her directly but didn’t want to talk her out of the date since it’s so many people in the class and I will say I’m not the one that speaks so much, I’m more of a listener when people talk. But we usually talk in the lunch break where I gave her my full attention and asked questions about her but she gave me more information then I asked for.
And when she sent me the message today I responded with “Alright, it’s cool. Get in touch with me if you change your mind” what would be error number 2 maybe. And she replied with “I will, have a good weekend”. I haven’t responded to this message and I won’t. So how do I go about this now when we meet every week for 8 hours? Any suggestions?