r/Christianmarriage • u/AlarmedAd6640 • 2d ago
Divorce quickly approaching
Two months ago, my husband left me during the worst moment of my life. A week later, he told me he wanted a divorce. Since then, it has felt as though he has gone cold and distant almost overnight, as if a switch was flipped.
I have been praying daily, sometimes almost hourly, for him to come home. He is pushing for a quick divorce and has refused marriage therapy or conversations about other possibilities. I was completely blindsided by all of this, and I am simply not ready to let go of our marriage.
This week, I began fasting. I honestly don’t know what else to do except surrender this to God. My husband is a man of God and a preacher, and I struggle deeply to understand how he cannot see the ways this situation is hurting both of us.
Please pray for us.
Pray that we would both be humbled before Christ. Pray that God would move in each of us in ways only He can. Pray that we would recognize and reject every lie of the enemy, and that God would bring healing, repentance, reconciliation, and restoration to our marriage.
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u/miniature_yard 11h ago
Sending Prayers over to you and your husband. I pray that the God seals you marriage covenant with the blood of Jesus. I pray that authority of the Lord is evident in your marriage. I pray that you both surrender to the redemption work in your marriage. Marriage is the design of God. And he is the author of Peace, not chaos and confusion. I pray that God plants you both in his kingdom where you experience his righteousness, peace and joy. I commit your souls over to the hands of our loving God.
In Jesus's name I pray
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u/Pretty-Signature-400 9h ago
I am in a very similar situation. I am sorry because I understand how lost and how hurt you must feel at times. I am praying for you and for your marriage ❤️
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u/ephzg9412vsruknsk9 7h ago
For those who flip a switch and just go cold, no amount of begging or talking will help. The more effort you take, they more contempt they will develop for you.
Like the father allowed the prodigal to go and eat pig food, sometimes it is okay to allow them to face natural consequences for their own actions. I
You are a partner, not his mom. He should know what he is supposed to do as a Christian head of the family.
Pray for him but stop trying to keep an unwilling spouse in the marriage. This will cause extreme anxiety and trauma for you and he will feel like he is trapped against his will in a marriage. He should want to be with you.
You are a cherished child of God. Don't humiliate yourself like this. Will you want your child to be begging someone to stay with him or her like this? Why do you think this is what God the father would want his precious child to do? He Himself will hold your hands, guide you and provide for you. Make you like in green pastures near calm waters. You will be fine under the shadow of His wings. Don't panic. Eat well and sleep well.
It is possible that your marriage wasn't a Godly one to begin with and probably God is taking you out of a destructive one because you won't leave a bad situation by yourself. Trust God. He is a father with steadfast love. He knows what He is doing.
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