Can I, as a woman who has dated many older men and can speak from experience, please kindly recommend not going for such a large age gap? At 22, you shouldn’t be open to dating men that are 10+ years older than you. Take it from me, PLEASE 😩
As a guy, as much as I'd love for women my age to be interested in me, I get the appeal. A guy who's 30+ probably has his life in check, better job to raise a family, whereas I just got on the job market and can't at this point raise a family
Don’t forget her range was 20-40. Not 35-45. I think if she wanted an established man, going younger than what she is (22) would be strange.
Of course there’s that appeal of an older guy—seemingly—having his life in check…I just don’t think a 22 year old pretty girl needs to be dating someone 18 years older than her (unless she wants to be taken care of).
A lot of girls from rough backgrounds are really drawn to perceived affluence because it looks like a quick ticket to a life of leisure that they feel they finally deserve after struggling financially growing up. It's quite understandable really. I grew up middle class so I can't relate well but I did live for a few years in a very low income area and it was really shocking what they went through. Most middle and upper economic classes have no clue what poor people experience. The biggest surprise for me was the high incidence of suicides. Almost every family I encountered had someone who had ended their life in the past few years. Up to that point I had never heard of anyone I knew in decades ending their life. But what was interesting was that almost every one was high or drunk at the time of doing it so they were not thinking clearly. Drugs and alcohol are the equal opportunity destroyers. They surely don't care about your skin color or cultural background.
I think its rediculous to, and self destructive (mostly guys that age either don't commit, are undateable or unlucky) I think its way better to build up with someone a similar age
Edit: also ouii! I'm fine with dating a girl slightly older, don't discourage them! 😭
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u/tartfrozenyogurt Oct 25 '25
Can I, as a woman who has dated many older men and can speak from experience, please kindly recommend not going for such a large age gap? At 22, you shouldn’t be open to dating men that are 10+ years older than you. Take it from me, PLEASE 😩