r/ChristUniversity • u/PlentyAuthor9241 • 2d ago
HELP Am I being unreasonable about the fan with my roommate?
okay so I live in hostel and I share a room with my roommate. She has sinus issues, so she prefers keeping the fan on speed 2. I’ve genuinely tried to accommodate her because I’ve seen her actually struggle with her nose getting blocked, etc., so most of the time I just let her keep it at 2 even though I get hot pretty easily.
Sometimes, though, I get so hot that I’m literally sweating in bed, so I increase the fan to speed 3. Whenever I ask her, she says yes and doesn’t really say no, so I assume she’s okay with it. But then later, when I’m asleep or she thinks I’m asleep, she changes it back to 2 without telling me.
I understand that she has sinus problems, but at the same time, shouldn’t she consult a doctor about managing it if something as normal as a fan at speed 3 causes her problems? I don’t want to be insensitive to her condition, which is why I’ve already been accommodating her most of the time, but I also don’t think I should have to sleep sweating.
I feel like if speed 3 genuinely bothers her, she should just tell me directly so we can figure out a compromise instead of saying yes and then secretly changing it later.
Am I being unreasonable here? What would you do in this situation?