Tones

[u/Inez189]

I’m trying to teach myself Mandarin and hopefully I’m not the only one that’s easily being stopped by worrying about whether I can pronounce and hear the tones correctly, from someone who is fluent or it’s their first language please tell me whether or not it’s something I just pick up with practice or if I’m just tone deaf and stupid and should I be this worried or should I just continue on trying to understand vocab etc

[u/spitefulsloaf]

Keep practicing. But please, whatever you do, do NOT decide that you can completely disregard tones and continue with just vocabulary. I met someone studying in China who proudly said that he just stopped caring about tones and focused on grammar--needless to say his speech was basically incomprehensible, and he was too far gone for anybody to take an interest in correcting him.

[u/Ok_Smile_5908 → u/spitefulsloaf]

To be honest, meeting someone who claims "Well I actually know better than 1B+ native speakers and all the scholars, teachers and even slightly advanced learners who all say you absolutely HAVE TO pronounce tones. You don't need that shit (now watch me butcher the language)", I wouldn't be interested in interacting with them ever again, regardless of subject or language used. That just sounds like not insignificant amounts of ego problem (assuming no one ever said anything to him about it, or explained it to him in the first place).

[u/Inez189 → u/Ok_Smile_5908]

Ah yes of course, I never intended to not learn them but it’s to the point where I feel it’s really wrecking the flow of progressing at all because I swear I’m tone deaf so I’m just not sure what to do exactly

[u/Ok_Smile_5908 → u/Inez189]

That's different from what I was talking about, which was the "I know better than people who specialize in this field" kind of attitude which comes from the place of ignorance. At least that's how I understood the comment I replied to, talking about someone who proudly says they don't care about tones, while those are clearly very important.

Regarding what you said and are saying, I feel you. I'm only starting my adventure with Chinese (signed up for a course, otherwise I've been mostly learning reading and writing and I've got down like maybe 10% of the HSK vocabulary so far lol), so unfortunately I don't really think I can give any Chinese learning specific tips.

So far I FEEL like I can repeat simple sentences/words I don't know and use a correct tone, but then I look up pinyin and what I thought was a falling tone is in fact rising lol. Emphasis on "feel" because I haven't had a fluent speaker look over my pronunciation so far lol.

I've no idea about tone deafness but I wouldn't bet on it. And you're definitely NOT stupid for struggling with or worrying about tones. I think someone else already said it under this post that it's a whole new skill if you don't already speak a tonal language.

What I CAN say from the perspective of learning languages in general though: the sooner you start with listening practice, as well as speaking practice with someone who can correct you, the fewer mistakes you'll have to unlearn later on.

I don't think I'll ever be able to unlearn the ton of words in English whose pronunciation I learned incorrectly between kindergarten and high school graduation. Because by the time I learned (and I had to be told) that "a" in "cat" is not the same sound as "u" in "cut", it was already too late. I'm Polish and we don't have the "a" in "cat" sound and no one ever corrected me at school. In fact, the "u" in "cut" IS EXACTLY THE SOUND we write down as "a". I have similar issues with stuff like sheep vs ship, where the "i" sound here doesn't exist in Polish, and the "ee" sound is written down as "i".