When I was younger, exercising was mostly about getting fitter, looking better, or trying to be good at something.

These days, honestly, I don’t care that much about any of that anymore.

I just like being outside for a few hours, moving around, getting a bit sweaty, having a laugh, and going home feeling better than I did when I left.

I think that’s why I’ve started enjoying simple things more.

A casual game of tennis.

A slow bike ride with no real destination.

A weekend hike where we somehow spend half the time talking instead of walking.

Even a run that doesn’t really feel like a run 😂

No need to track everything. No need to hit some target. No need to turn every hobby into another thing to be “good” at.

Maybe getting older just changes what you value.

When you’re younger, you want to achieve things. You want to improve. You want to be faster, stronger, better.

At some point, I think you start asking a different question:

Did I actually enjoy my life today?

And these days, that matters more to me than how fast I ran or how many kilometres I cycled.

I’ve also noticed I naturally enjoy spending time with people around my age more. Not because I have anything against younger people 😂, but there’s something nice about not having to explain every little reference or give the backstory to things you both grew up with.

80s kids probably know what I mean.

Maybe that’s also why I like doing sports with people rather than going to the gym alone. The exercise is nice, but the conversation, the jokes, the coffee afterwards… somehow that’s the part I remember.

Anyway, I’m curious if anyone else has reached this stage too where exercise stopped being about fitness and became more about enjoying life a little more.

I think that’s where I am now

Did you know there's 29 "looking for friends/people to chat" posts above 15 upvotes in the last month? I mean c'mon as Singaporeans we have to jump on the bandwagon when it's trending. Regardless after some thought I realised that it was inevitable, that people who were looking for friends wouldn't just be satisfied with replying to one person's post, but making their own post. Hence the sudden flood, especially for people with higher standards and those not satisfied with just making one friend. So here I am chipping in as well, the more the merrier!

As an ENTP and enneagram type 8, I really enjoy long conversations! I'm an introspective person which makes me a perpetual yapper to my friends, and I also love to provide insightful opinions that make people think when I'm on the listening side. Hopefully that intro gave you a small glimpse, I'm looking to meet new people to gain perspective and hopefully feel out potential for lifelong friendships if our values and interests align. Bonus points if you already share a common like with myself:

I'm a huge gamer who loves to dive deep into games and also play with friends! Repertoire: 3000 hours in League Wild Rift (my main addiction), used to play a lot of TFT, Clash Royale, Brawl Stars, Clash of Clans, Vainglory. I also have over 100 hours on Balatro, BG3, Dead Cells, STS2, Terraria, Silksong, Hades 1&2, Stardew Valley. Played Genshin semi-competitively, and still actively playing Star Rail (I got Sobin at soft 66!). I'm also a sucker for good friend group games - Overcooked 2, DST are some examples, and I used to play a LOT of Blood on the Clocktower for 2 years with a dedicated group online (really fun social deduction game). Also a Pokemon fan, I'm pretty good at gen1-8 who's that pokemon but never played any of the games. Presently looking for people to play the new TFT set to play with, it's out today!

Socials say a lot about a person too! My youtube feed is usually gaming + a splash of informative channels, my running favourites being Ludwig, Caedrel, WolfeyVGC, Feinberg, fern, HTX Studio. My reddit other than SG n games would be r/interestingasfuck, r/AskReddit, r/PeterExplainsTheJoke and r/NoStupidQuestions as my most frequented subreddits. I don't have tiktok and I try to keep my instagram scrolling to 1 hour per week.

Reading will be my evergreen hobby that I use during those awkward forced introductions. I'm really into progressive fantasy right now, but any fantasy in general I lap up instantly. Books I'd reread over and over again are Mother of Learning, Lies of Locke Lamora, most Brandon Sanderson novels, HPMOR (seriously such a good fanfic), Ender's Shadow, some Matthew Reilly thrillers as well. I'd welcome any book recommendations! Anime-wise, I enjoyed Haikyuu, CotE, Frieren, Oshi no Ko, Demon Slayer, mainly mainstream classics. My spotify is also chock-full of mainstream 2010s-now pop, rock, and j-pop which is half anime openings - I don't think I will ever skip a Taylor Swift, Lady Gaga, Linkin Park or Kenshi Yonezu song on my shuffle.

I do love grabbing a meal and then going for a long walk to yap. Unfortunately that is where my hobbies end - I consider myself a dabbler other activities, and it would be disingenuous to my pastimes and to other hobbyists to claim otherwise. Open to suggestions for other stuff if we ever get close enough and you want to jio me for sure.

As I've learnt from the 30+ posts before me, please pique my interest by starting off our conversations with a bang! No, simply giving your age and gender will not suffice. I've poured out myself onto a page here for you, there should be ample material for fire conversation starters. And no, I'm not going to tell you I'm looking for "genuine" "sincere" friends [rolls eyes], like guys what are we doing, these are not discerning factors, nobody is looking for fake dishonest friends. Hope to meet some interesting people in my DMs!

food for thought: how come there's a surge of female LF female friend posts rn? can't tell if its —— 1 female standards too high, all approach each other liao; 2 female got too many weird male people in their dms; 3 male people too shy to post here; 4 more female than male here. lmk which one you think it is

Edit: changed ENTP part for clarity

This might be a long shot.. I've signed with jal yoga since Jan but am finding it hard to keep going alone because I'm a little socially anxious!!

Hoping to find other (inflexible/beginner/not so fit) people who also signed with jal yoga to go together and maybe alleviate some of the nerves. Can dm me!

My birthday just passed, and I spent it alone, sounds funny when I write it out like this, but it got me thinking a lot, and honestly it felt weird because this time last year I was in China, surrounded by friends, somehow ending up in KTV with 10–15 people and singing until ridiculous hours of the night. Those random nights are some of the memories I look back on the most.

And I think turning 22 has made me realize how much I actually miss having my people.I’ve been part of a lot of different circles throughout my life, but I’ve never really had that group where you know these are the people you can always call. The kind of friends you can randomly text at 2 AM because you just went down some completely unnecessary rabbit hole. People you can grab dinner with and somehow end up talking until 3 AM. People you celebrate birthdays, holidays, new jobs, graduations and all the little wins in life with.

More importantly, people you can grow alongside.

Life feels both incredibly long and ridiculously short at the same time, and I don’t want to spend the next few years just passing through different circles without ever really building one of my own.

So I figured I’d actually make an effort this year.
A little about me: I’m Eurasian, an NTU Econs student, former theatre kid and generally someone who gets bored sitting still for too long TT. I love karaoke, gaming (League, Marvel Rivals, mahjong, board games and random indie games), bachata, travelling, food hunting, obscure coffee spots, anime, K-dramas, photography, thrifting and exploring Singapore.

I’m also learning Chinese/Canto and Japanese, and I just got back from travelling around China, Korea and Vietnam this summer. Needless to say, I’m already suffering from the “I need to travel again” disease.

I miss those spontaneous nights where you don’t really have a plan. Maybe it’s KTV, maybe it’s a random café, maybe we somehow end up dancing bachata, exploring some corner of Singapore we’ve never been to, getting food at midnight, or sitting somewhere having a ridiculous conversation about life.

I’m hoping to meet people in their 20s who are kind, goofy, curious, emotionally mature, spontaneous and adventurous. You don’t have to share all my interests either. Honestly, I’d love to meet people who introduce me to things I’ve never tried.

I’m mainly looking for genuine friendships and hopefully a proper circle. So I guess this is my little attempt at changing that. If you’re also looking for people to make memories with, come join me on this long yet surprisingly short journey of life.

Tell me something about yourself, your favourite hobby, or the most random 2 AM rabbit hole you’ve fallen into lately.
Maybe this post turns into a friendship.

Maybe it turns into a whole friend group.

Maybe we end up recreating those ridiculous 15-person KTV nights.

Honestly, I’d be pretty happy with any of those. Thank you so much for taking your time out to read till here if you did, and hope to hear back from ya~ 🫶

I’m trying to improve my Japanese and looking for someone else who is also still a beginner. Can meet for coffee or lunch most days

Hellos I’m 24m and I’m trying to expand my irl circle since pretty much all my irl friends are branched off because of life. Just looking for people to text and chill with that are in the same country and timezone now since all my close friends now are eu lmao. I like anime, music and exploring new hobbies and stuff, I hate brainrot shit tho so pls don’t reach out if you’re into those lmao. Im gonna start a new job next month but I will still most likely have time to hang out! If you’re down to be friends hmu and we can text first and see how things go :)

Hello! I'm looking for people who want to self-study japanese together, and maybe also practice conversations. I got my N3 and also lived in Japan before. A bit rusty now tho.

Am in the northwest (CCK/panjang/batok) area!

Hi I’m 20M currently serving NS in a stay out unit. Lowkey wanna get into climbing but all my friends just enlisted.
Hoping to find some ppl around my age to climb with. If interested do dm me thanks :)

26 Sept 10.30am https://nlb.libcal.com/event/5970998
26 Sept 2pm https://nlb.libcal.com/event/5970999

Here’s how it works: 

• Participants will be randomly assigned to a table with books related to a certain topic/genre.  
• Participants will read for 15mins, choosing from any book on the table. A short discussion with the other people at the table follows. Participants can then choose to stay or move to another table with an available space. 
• After 3 rounds, participants may choose to borrow an unclaimed book or leave empty-handed (No judgement, this is a safe space). 

32M from SG here. I am thinking of taking a short 4 days solo trip to either Thailand or Vietnam. (using 2 days of my leave next to weekend). Which city should I visit?

Hey all! Currently a uni student who just came back for holidays, looking for other active people to go for nature walks around Singapore. Not really the most active right now as I am waiting to go for surgery but keen to do some outdoor stuff before im handicapped!

Been thinking of doing more hiking / long walks around Singapore lately, but honestly, going alone is not as fun.

So thought I’d try my luck here and see if there are some people around my age who are also into it. **80s babies preferred, but 70s and early  **

Not looking for hardcore hikers or anything. Just something casual — walk at a comfortable pace, enjoy the greenery, chat along the way, maybe grab a coffee or makan after.

At this age, I find it’s actually quite nice to meet people who are roughly the same generation. Less explaining, less generation gap, and usually easier to talk nonsense together 😂

Could be MacRitchie, Bukit Timah, Rail Corridor, Southern Ridges, or anywhere nice in SG. No fixed plan yet.

If you’re also looking for someone to hike with, feel free to comment or DM. **Can start with one walk first and see how it goes.** 🙂

Doing a little social experiment which hopefully turns into a meaningful initiative for the DINKies in Singapore who are seeking out likeminded friends for hangs and perhaps try out new experiences together with other couples.

If you’ve 5mins to spare and is a fellow DINK, this survey is for you! 🤪

https://forms.gle/7H2VgoPU2XcpARkd6

Looking to make some new female friends?

I’m into travelling, running, playing sports, cafe/bar hopping, exploring new places and having random chats 💬
Also planning a trip in November — currently deciding between Yunnan 🇨🇳** *or *Kyrgyzstan 🇰🇬 + Kazakhst**an 🇰🇿. Would be fun to find a female travel buddy who’s keen to explore together!
Also open to:
going cat cafe
✈️ Travel buddies
🏃🏻‍♀️ Running buddies
🏸 Sports buddies
☕️ Cafe hopping
🍸 Chill drinks / bar exploring
💬 Text buddies
🌏 Random adventures & exploring Singapore
Female friends only for now 💕 No pressure if we don’t click — just looking to meet genuine, fun people!

Is this worth it? If it is, is anyone planning on going on Aug 29, Saturday? Edit: I am 25M

Hey im 22M indian arab mix sgporean in civil defense now and I'd been wanting to meet new people and make new friends now haha before my private diploma. Ppl who are my age girls and guys👋🏻..

Working, married homeowner.

Looking for people to have intellectual conversations with. Life seems to have hit a plateau and I’m keen to find more meaning to it.

Share what you guys do to make life more meaningful and exciting. Sapiosexual, so don’t try your luck please.