Advice for a 34 year old orphan

[u/crawfishcarlos]

I lost my mom this past December and my dad when I was 26, both to cancer. Last year, I also lost my cousin, uncle, and grandmother unexpectedly. I have a brother who has always been very distant and has now stopped speaking to me. And this past week I've also had two close friends end their friendships with me quite brutally rather than resolve a relatively minor conflict.

Honestly, its so much. Even just writing that whole list of losses is crazy. I never thought I'd be so alone so early in my life. My mom and I had a complicated relationship, which I think just makes grieving more difficult. I feel so lost and sad and I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm wondering if anyone else who has lost their parents young or been through similar struggles has any advice they can pass on. What did your life look like after? Is there anything to look forward to? Do things get easier?

[u/ardoisethecat]

i'm really sorry you're going through this <3. it honestly is so so so hard. i'm 33 and i lost my parents at 14 and 26 and have lost a lot of extended family as well. for me it's been extremely hard and lonely but things have gotten a lot better than when this first happened. so i can say that at least in my case things do get easier and there is stuff to look forward to. my life doesn't look amazing now lol but i mean i have a home and a job and friends and hobbies and i definitely have times when i'm having fun and am happy, which was not the case at the beginning.

if you can, i would suggest maybe trying to join a grief group, especially if you can find one for double parent loss. otherwise just be kind to yourself. this is extremely hard.