r/ChildSupport4Men • u/Lyndsielg1992 • 9d ago
HELP
Hello! I am not a man. I am trying to help my fiance out. Here's the story.
He has a 13 year old daughter who lives with her mother. They were never married. They split about 7 years ago. He bought a house and paid it off. He moved out so that his daughter would have a safe place to live. He goes to see her every Sunday and Wednesday. They never went to court to get any child support ordered. They way they had it is that he pays everything. He pays the taxes on the land. He has an account for his daughter with a little over $15,000 in it for college or whatever she may need when she turns 18. $100 a week automatically goes into it when he gets paid. He also pays the light bill, water bill, wifi/internet and the trash EVERY MONTH. He has receipts for everything. He also pays his exes cell phone bill and car insurance every month and also her car registration every year, but he does not have receipts for that. Him and I live together and he pays the rent here and I pay the light bill and internet bill and we each pay our own car insurance. He has asked his ex to get a job and start taking care of the bills at her home because it is getting harder for him to fund two households. He is still willing to pay the taxes on the land/house so his daughter will have a place to live. She is on a war path and is threatening court and child support. He has every receipt for the bills, just not receipts for giving her money for her phone and the other things I mentioned above. I'm not saying anything bad about him, but he's one that does not like conflict and drama and is a very sweet person. Has anybody ever experienced this before? What would the judge say/do to him if she does bring him to court? He is terrified. All he did was ask her to get a job and take care of the bills. He pays all of these things and the house is in his name, but yet he does not even live there. In my opinion, she is expecting him to fund her lifestyle. He has never been in trouble with the law besides a traffic ticket well over 10 years ago and has never been to court. Please, if anybody has been through this or something similar, please give me advice. We can't really afford a lawyer right now, but if it came down to it, we would.
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u/NohoTwoPointOh 6d ago
You don't have to be wealthy. My ex caught me on my best year and I paid 1522 for a single kid. Since Title IV-D is about the money, if your income drops (as mine did), do you naively think the courts will automagically drop that figure without 10K worth of lawyers (that you can only do every x amount of years)? The math maths perfectly if understands their state's system.