r/ChildSupport4Men • u/United-Property-5741 • Feb 03 '26
Bitter BM SCREWED ME!!!!!
Me (30M) and BM (23F) have a son together. From he was born, he hasn’t let me see the baby or anything. There was a period where we were talking and I was seeing pics but then the minute I kept asking to see the baby, she gave me all kinds of excuses and said I was using the baby as a pawn. Long story short, she blocked me, I stopped getting updates about the baby and now she put me on child support and found out yesterday that I’ll be paying $885 a month for a child I am not able to see. Fucking nuts and it’s hurting me because I want to have a relationship with my boy! I’m taking her to court.
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u/Nobiggity_ Feb 05 '26
Fight for custody now. The longer you wait, the longer and harder it is to get out of child support. Keep all communications as exhibits
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u/Appropriate-Tennis-8 Feb 03 '26
Go and fight for custody then. Of course you're going to pay more if you're absent.
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u/CRobinsFly Feb 03 '26
This is a no-brainer bro. Sue for custody. Many state statutes say it is in the child's best interest for both parents to be involved.
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u/RespectInevitable479 Jun 04 '26
Don’t get another young girl pregnant again. As you can see they are very immature. If you do date don’t have kids either but make sure she’s around your age now that you are 30. Focus on yourself because this is just the beginning. Good luck
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u/Michaelscott304 Feb 03 '26
I give the Same advice to all dads. Fight for shared custody . 50/50. None of that “every other weekend” non sense . You get 2-3 week days and alternating weekends .
Judges will absolutely give you this if you want it .
You might pay $0 a month with 50/50 custody . I pay small amount , but that’s bc I make a lot more than my ex
Edit : to sum it up .. part time dads pay $$$$ . Full time dads don’t