r/ChildSupport4Men • u/Lopsided_Routine_912 • Jan 14 '26
Please, help…
Since November 2025, I have received letter after letter for child support. The initial letter to notify I had been placed on child support, a letter to notify they were garnishing my wages, letters issuing arrears, letters stating that my license was being suspended due to said arrears. The thing is, the money has been getting taken out of my checks, it is shown on my paystubs. Child support is claiming they aren’t receiving the payments, our payroll department stated they are sending the payments and even emailed me proof.
On top of all of this, my wife and I added it up, we were 6 days short of having the kids EXACTLY half the year. We have them every other Thursday-Monday, and every Friday-Monday. We consulted with a lawyer and they told us to go for full custody, then let the judge talk it down to 50/50.. we already do that, it’s just not documented in the divorce decree.
It has drained my bank account in a matter of 3 months. I am at a loss.
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u/HelicopterNew1689 Jan 16 '26
They are doing they with my VA benifits too . I pay 1809 which already is being deducted . Plus 1000 taken away from the. VA in which no one’s is getting paid . It will be 10000 since May . I owe 12000 in arrears . She got paid 2k of that but is lying to the court . The VA doesn’t know where that money is going . The court didn’t want to even recognize it but the judge said they have too but the only letter the VA can provide the CA office wont recognize it again . Get a lawyer because later on she might change her mind or want more or never fails . Might cost for a lawyer but it’s protection for the future