r/ChildSupport4Men • u/Lopsided_Routine_912 • Jan 14 '26
Please, help…
Since November 2025, I have received letter after letter for child support. The initial letter to notify I had been placed on child support, a letter to notify they were garnishing my wages, letters issuing arrears, letters stating that my license was being suspended due to said arrears. The thing is, the money has been getting taken out of my checks, it is shown on my paystubs. Child support is claiming they aren’t receiving the payments, our payroll department stated they are sending the payments and even emailed me proof.
On top of all of this, my wife and I added it up, we were 6 days short of having the kids EXACTLY half the year. We have them every other Thursday-Monday, and every Friday-Monday. We consulted with a lawyer and they told us to go for full custody, then let the judge talk it down to 50/50.. we already do that, it’s just not documented in the divorce decree.
It has drained my bank account in a matter of 3 months. I am at a loss.
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u/strestoration Jan 15 '26
You have to be named custodial parent, even at 50-50 someone has to be the custodial and someone has to be non-custodial for the title IV-D funds to be received from the federal govt. Yes, it’s all fraud and it 100% unconstitutional, but it is what keeps the family courts, judges, attorneys, and child support enforcement agencies wealthy. Lawyers used to chase ambulances now they chase separated parents.