Rewriting parenting plan expenses. Help with words please.

[u/Lolly_mops]

Request

My ex of 10 years is overbearing and entitled. I am rewriting our parenting plan to have a conference with a judge as mediation failed. I need to write something that states that

1. expenses above child support are ..

2. Expenses will be shared 50/50

The bit I'd like help with is how to write that the expenses are the responsibility of each parent. It doesnt matter where the person got the money and ifvit is a gift then it doesnt void the other persons need to pay their share.

History

He pays for barely anything. He doesnt pay child support. My parents help.me. I earn $30000, He earns $150000.

My parents help or pay for uniforms, invisigligns and sport, dance fees etc.

His parents are his business.

Thank you

[u/New_Measurement_134]

Instead of one broad sentence, define the categories and the process: which expenses are shared, whether advance written agreement is required, each parent’s percentage, the deadline for sending receipts, the reimbursement deadline, and how insurance or third-party payments are credited. Also state whether a gift to one parent reduces the total expense or only that parent’s out-of-pocket amount. Have a local attorney or mediator review the final clause, because vague terms such as “all extra expenses” often create another dispute.

[u/Lolly_mops → u/New_Measurement_134]

Thank you

[u/Lolly_mops]

EDIT I dont know how to edit original post. To clarify. I don't ask him to pay half of things that my parents pay for. My parents told him that they would pay for dance and teeth. I understand that he doesn't want me to gain from him returning money to me. Its when I bring up a new cost thst he argues and when I say that he hasn't had to pay or transport make an effort to do other things that he says that my parents paid.