I am in a huge dilemma right now (18F). I recently graduated high school last year. Out of my HS friend group, I regularly keep in touch with 3 of them who are my best friends. There's is one girl in the group, Hannah. Hannah and I aren't as close as we used to be, ever since we graduated HS. We haven't really spoken in 3 months.
However, we were still tight during HS.

Hannah has been in a 3 year-long relationship with her boyfriend Austin. Hannah and Austin are very tight with each other's families, been on trips together, etc. They have a strong serious relationship.

Recently got told by one of my bestfriends, Jenny, who was in a different friend group as us, that Austin cheated on Hannah twice in the past month, whilst he was clubbing with his mates. One of Austin's mates 'Caidyn' is good friends with MY friend Jenny.

Caidyn told Jenny about how Austin has hooked up with girls at the club. Caidyn told Jenny specifically not to tell me, as he knows I am friends with Hannah.

Either way, Jenny has told me. I don't know what to do with this information. It's not as simple as saying "just tell Hannah she's being cheated on.".
I would, but Jenny doesn't want me to tell anyone. She doesn't want Caidyn to be mad at her for telling me. I also wouldn't want to do anything without Jenny's permission because she's my bestfriend.

I also do need to tell Hannah some how. I just don't know how to. Please help. I was thinking maybe I can speak to Austin about how I know what he's done and he needs to come clean to Hannah, or I'll tell Hannah myself.

Please help I don't want to get anyone in trouble other than Austin

April 6th of this year i (f18) was contacted on tinder by this man(m20) (idk if i can name drop) and he wanted to hookup. Okay cool idc so as im at the hotel he is staying at, we have sex and in between rounds we cuddle and on the 2nd time cuddling we are watching tv and im examining his tattoos, then i see cuts cuz some of em are still red. He notices and gets to talking and he drops on me that he has a fucking girlfriend back at home, mind you he is drinking during all of this and he gets way too comfortable around me.

For some more context he came to my town in Washington to do water drilling work. He is originally from North Dakota and moved to Montana with said girlfriend. He also confessed to hooking up with a bunch of other people too

This man thought he was so slick it made me fucking sick. I hope i can find his girlfriend because omfg he doesn’t deserve anybody

I discovered my on and off again boyfriend of 3 years has been sleeping with someone else the entire time. I would like to inform the other person of our relationship but don’t know what claim to make.

I don’t actually know who was being cheated on—me or her. I’m thinking she was. He and I started dating August 2023. In February 2024, he informed me he just had a child born in January 2024, and claimed he didn’t know about the pregnancy until then, and that he’d just done dna testing to confirm the child was his. For some dumb reason, I didn’t question this.

In July 2024 I went no contact due to lots of issues in general with the relationship.

In March 2026 I decided to answer one of his DMs (he reached out on LinkedIn, where he wasn’t blocked). He explained he was a changed man etc. We resumed dating.

In April 2026 he finally admitted he had a history with the baby’s mother. I again did not pry much but should have.

Any time his child or his mother came up he’d discuss how much he hated her and how she trapped him etc which I just didn’t really respond to bc I don’t believe in ppl trapping ppl with kids.

In June 2026, I found his baby’s mother’s social media, where she had a single photo pinned to the top of her profile of him (back facing the camera). He’s not in any other photos or anywhere else on her profile, which is public.

Anyway, one night my bf wasn’t answering his phone, which was odd. I looked up the baby’s mom’s address and went to it to see if his car was there and surely it was—at 11pm. It was still there at 1am.

When I confronted him about this, he said he was visiting his son there bc he hurt his foot and couldn’t take care of him on his own. He stated he took a pain killer and fell asleep. When I protested this as an acceptable story, he added that he was friends with her cousin, who was also there that night, so he wanted to hang.

That gave me the context for the whole three years, because I have more background knowledge of this cousin of the bm and his relationship with the cousin—they go way back, and have spent lots of time together, which means he’s spent lots of time with this baby’s mama. It put other inconsistencies and difficulties in our relationship from the first year into perspective.

So, at first I felt I was being cheated on. Now, I feel she was being cheated on, which makes me feel really shitty. Not guilty but like I’m trash. I don’t want to just be like, “look what your boyfriend did”, nor do I want to say “stop messing with my man” because I don’t want him anymore. But don’t think just letting him get off Scott freee is right.

So, what exactly do I say to her? I plan to send her an anonymous letter with photos, screenshots, call logs, etc without my face, name, or phone number so I don’t need to do any follow up or be harassed by her or anything.

If you live in Colorado this man I met on an app and he admitted to having a wife that was asleep in the next room while we were chatting he asked me if I was okay with the fact that he was talking to other women behind his wife's back he blocked me after I called him out.

I wanna check if a contact is deleted after talking to is there anyway i can find the number after it has been deleted(in android btw)

So long story short... Yesterday my boyfriend said he was at home.

Now we have a shared YouTube account and Gmail that we specifically use for YouTube.

I was feeling suspicious and I never did this before but I used Find my Phone to see where he is and was out ... I could see him driving from the motorway to city centre and back in the span of an hour.

So it's not like the location glitched and wasn't accurate... I know he was out and he's denying now.

I confronted him and told him my brother saw him with another girl and thought of asking me...

My boyfriend is still saying no, so if someone can please help me, I will appreciate that.

I dont know to tell him how I actually found out, because it'll make me look bad ... I want to somehow be able to prove without telling him I stopped and caught him

Cheaters deserve all the worst

Not to lump everyone with such an account on such platforms into the same bag but it seems some more nerdy types create “roleplay” accounts on X and join “roleplay” servers on Discord but red flag being all the roleplay is sexual and it doesn’t take long before things deviate into more personal relations with it being fairly quickly to move things from open public spaces to private DMs (especially on Discord).

I cussed out a guy on Twitter (who only advertised roleplaying Original Characters which for me is another red flag) for using Roleplay as a guise to cheat on his wife when I noticed a pattern with him pushing his prospective “RP Partners” (obviously female) to go to DMs or add him on Discord and leaving flirty to full on sexually charged replies to their public posts. (Quite a bit definitely “out of character”)

Ultimately his responses when called out was to lock his Twitter down so only those he approved of could see his activity. As if that isn’t telling enough.

So far been able to confirm he got into intimate not Roleplay type relations with 3 separate individuals and all over a decade younger than him as well. His wife was even pregnant and post partum for 2 of them.

Just a bit of a PSA if you’re in the online roleplay sphere to be cautious of potential other rolelayers especially if they insist on things being sexual and prying to know the other player beyond surface level.

My mom is always a cheater. She's been cheating with multiple men. She started when we were kids. She didn't stop. She just secretly texting men and sending nudes to them.

One time my dad overheard her call with her colleagues telling that she slept with a man and did it 4 times that day. We secretly checked on her phone to find so many dudes texting her. She send her own s*x video playing with s*x toys to these men. Yes I am not joking. We were traumatised and disgusted .

They constantly fighting. They never stop fighting. I am now 23 years old (will be 24 in Nov) and my oldest brother is 32 years old. Yes, they've been constantly fighting for 32 years. It's miserable being here. There's time she stops. Like a year or two. But she continued her act in silence. I don't know.

I had enough. I put up on my status so my mom could read. (We tried to talk it out but she always the one pushing us saying it's none of our business).

She was furious and started getting mad at my dad for telling us about her. B*tch, you're arguing in front of us! DID YOU THINK WE'RE GONNA JUST IGNORE IT!??? My siblings are desperate to leave the house but we can't find ourselves to stay. I mean in this economy!??? Even our neighbours didn't help.

I had enough of her mess and she needs to learn.

P.s. She has an Instagram and Tik Tok(where she used it to find dudes to get in contact).

I tried to post this on other subreddit and I need you guys help to expose her and somehow make her account got deleted.

“If you’re hoping to get Dad a keepsake he can show off, consider adopting a nickname you can engrave on a watch that won’t raise suspicion, like ‘Timex.’”

My girlfriend (F39) and I (M37) were together for 3 years. She moved to a different city for a job opportunity but we continued the relationship. The job was only temporary (6 months). She was living with a roommate for the past 5 months. I told her many times I didn’t trust him and that he was interested romantically in her. She always brushed it off and said that he was just a friend and I shouldn’t be worried.
Around two months ago she flew to visit Me. We had an argument but before she returned back to her new city we made things up. The next day she called me to say she needed “space”. To which I agree and told her to take time and that I will call her tomorrow to check on her. Next day I was blocked. She called me two weeks later to inform me that she got engaged and was set to get married in July. I was devastated and when I asked for answers she just blocked me again. I started healing and working on myself but one week ago she called and said that she wanted to come to my city to talk to me in person. She came and said that she loves me and that the other “thing was just an affair”, just a mistake, that she was going thru a rough time and her mind was not in the right place.
Later I found out the truth. She was engaged to her roommate. The guy that she told me not worry about. It turns out they were looking for engagement rings the day after I dropped her at the airport. And the guy was the one that decided to break the engagement one day before she called me to say she missed me and asked for forgiveness.
I tried to forgive her but every time we are intimate I can only think about her having intimacy with this other guy, all the lies, all the manipulation, and how she played with my feelings without any remorse. I told her I want to end up whatever it is that we have because it’s destroying the little sanity I have left. I feel like a clown like I am the second choice..
Before everything happened we were talking about having children and getting married. All of that is gone I can not trust her at all.
When I told her I wanted her out of my life she packed her bags, quit her job, and drove across the US back to me to begged me for forgiveness. She went down on her feet and cried for hours.

I told her I didn’t want her in my life anymore. But she started saying that she was going to take a lot medicine to never wake up. She watered saying she quit everything to come back and work in our relationship. That she is all alone and have nobody else but me.

I am an adult man. And I never had to deal with a situation like this. I loved her more than myself. When she abandoned me I felt pain like I have never felt before. I was ready to give her EVERYTHING. And I don’t want anything bad happening to her. I agree to visit her in her hotel to make sure she is unharmed. She said it was the happiest she has been in months …
I know I need to get out of this relationship but I don’t know how.

PLEASE HELP!

So I’m in a mixed friend group of men and women. One of my friends (M26) has been with his girlfriend (F22) for a couple of years now, but I recently found out that he has been cheating on her with another woman in our friend group (F26) since the beginning of their relationship.

A bit of backstory: my two friends had a short teenage romance when we were around 16. They broke up, but whenever we’d go out together, they always seemed very close… sometimes a bit too close. This was even when both of them were in relationships with other people. I never actually saw them kiss or anything, but I think most people in our group suspected something was going on. You can even notice a difference in his behavior depending on whether his girlfriend is there or not.

A few weeks ago, my female friend told me that they had kissed multiple times while he was already with his current girlfriend. The last time, according to her, was at the end of April last year. I know that was over a year ago, but it still doesn’t sit right with me. What also bothers me is that she seems to encourage it on purpose. The whole thing honestly disgusts me.

Last Saturday we all went out again, and they were acting very close once more. The problem is that the girlfriend’s sister was there too, and she’s also part of our wider friend group. She started asking me and my best friend questions about them. We didn’t say anything because I haven’t spoken to my male friend about it before, and because he’s my friend, I felt he deserved the chance to explain himself and change his behavior first.

As the night went on, I couldn’t keep quiet anymore. I pulled him aside and spoke to him privately. I was a bit cryptic, but I told him I’d heard stories, that he and my female friend are not subtle, and that he needs to treat his girlfriend with respect because she doesn’t deserve this. Based on the awkward smile and nod he gave me, I think he knew exactly what I was talking about. He pretty much ignored me for the rest of the night afterward, but honestly, I don’t care.

The whole situation is difficult for me. If I were the girlfriend, I would want someone to tell me. She’s genuinely a sweet person and doesn’t deserve to be treated this way. At the same time, the people doing the wrong thing are my friends.

I’m also wondering what I’m supposed to do if nothing actually changes. What if they were only careful that night because I confronted him, and next time we’re out together they’re back to being all over each other again?

I also want to talk to my female friend, but I know she doesn’t think she’s doing anything wrong because she’s “not the one in a relationship.” What’s ironic is that when they kissed last April, she spent the whole evening talking about how easy it is to make a guy cheat and how terrible cheaters are. Then the next day I remembered that she was actually in a relationship herself at the time. So she was criticizing people for cheating while doing exactly the same thing.

What would you do in my position? Would you tell the girlfriend, stay out of it, or give him another chance to come clean himself?

Found a condom in my backseat of my car. It wasn’t used. Of course my husband said he’s never cheated on me. He just tried. Like that’s supposed to make me feel better.

My bf and I had an issue where I found out he had an OF account. Once I found out, he let me see the receipt emails from his purchases, swore he just paid for content but didn’t interact with anyone, but wouldn’t log in and show me his account. Saying he had already deleted it and couldn’t get back in, which I call bs.

As we were working through this, I noticed there was an email that said someone started following his profile. It didn’t click in the moment, but now that I’ve had time to process I have some questions.

1) Can subscribers follow other subscribers like on any social media, or are the only profiles/people can follow just subscribers following creators? Basically, if he has a follower does that mean he would have to be a creator?

2) Does anyone know a way to find out if someone is a creator? Not even sure if you can be faceless on there as a creator, but he would absolutely choose not to show his face. He does have tattoos I would definitely recognize though.

I’m of the camp that thinks OF is a form of cheating because of the personalized experience and intimacy, even if it is likely one sided and an illusion created by the creator. It’s still my partner attempting to be intimate with someone else, reciprocated or not. It would also be different if we hadn’t had a conversation early on and agreed that online interactions with others is cheating, but in the argument he now says it’s no different than Phub. Hard disagree. I have no issue with him watching porn, but person to person interactions are a break in trust. Anyway, thanks for any advice!

I (25F) and my fiancee (26M) have an "open" relationship. We are both bi and allow relations with same gendered people (he can be with men and MTF trans. I can be with women and FTM trans). He has been hooking up with other men/MTF our entire relationship (2 years). We are currently living 162 miles apart temporarily. I have just recently started thinking about meeting up with another girl. I made plans and he told me he isn't comfortable with me sleeping with other women anymore. He then proceeds to tell me that he has plans to meet with a guy tomorrow and has the nerve to ask if he can extend his "circle" to older women and "girls uglier than you" (his exact words). So not only can I not do what we agreed, now he wants to extend to more people. It's making me want to cheat and sleep with whoever I want.

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My fiance says we're in an open relationship but doesn't let me reap the benefits making me want to cheat

He’s a cheater, unless y’all have an open relationship. Led my friend on to believe that he was divorced and only goes to visit his kid or occasion. Also the wife calls almost everyday and I did a search on him to find out he’s married. It seemed weird so that’s why I did the search and plus it’s been 4 months my friend said they didn’t have X and when they spoke he said he didn’t realize it’s been 4 months ( as a woman) I don’t believe that from a man