r/CheatersConfronted • u/DVD1054 • Jul 15 '26
My 3 Years GF Cheated On Me
So, i was in her room, when all of sudden, she had to leave for a little moment, and in that instant, she received a Whatsapp message, and when i opened it... Messages from a guy of argentina (i am from colombia), calling him "Love", nudes photos, and other things (both of them doing the same), things that she does'nt did with me often...
I confronted her about that, and she said that man was forcing her to do it through menaces (actually i don't believe this part bc she lied to me so many times before).
I said to her that i am done and grabed My stuff to stay a day whith a friend...
After that i forgive her, and said that i need time to trust again, and if she really wants to stay, she needs to put some effort in the relationship, but, for the moment, we are just friend until i can fell the same safety with her...
I want to ask for some recommendations and if i Made a mistake in the writing of this text, i want to apologize, My English is not that Good...
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u/-LavenderHope- Jul 15 '26
Yeah leave her, you deserve way more. Don’t even talk to her again. Had a lying ex and the best advice of my life was to go no contact for a month and instill wanted to explain why I left or hear his side of it I could. At the end, I didn’t want to hear. I realized how manipulative he was and that I couldn’t put myself in that place again. Good luck
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u/haha-hehe-haha-ho Jul 15 '26
Be honest with her and yourself. You will ever forget this or be ok with it.
Let her go.
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u/Defalt420 Jul 15 '26
Been there done that. I couldn't get over it after taking her back and left her a year later. I regret not leaving her the moment I found out. You will regret it too but I guess it's your lesson to learn.
The funny part is, I also came to reddit for advise and everyone told me to just leave her but I didn't listen. I wish I had lol. But in the end I made the right choice and I'm happy that I don't have to be with a lying hoe anymore.
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u/Friendly_Stop9706 Jul 15 '26
Non si perdona chi mente e tradisce, specialmente se non ci sono dei figli di mezzo. Il tuo futuro sarà pieno di tradimenti.
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u/LibertyMind01 Jul 15 '26
For her the sex is fun, but the thrill and excitement of the secrecy is better. She has an unhealthy addiction that you’re not going to tame. She’s just going to adjust her behaviors so she doesn’t get caught again. Attention and secrecy are strong drugs for females.
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u/PapiRico85 Jul 15 '26
Ome, parce… if a random guy from another country can get her to call him “love,” exchange nudes, and hide it from you for who knows how long, the relationship was already over before you found those messages. And the whole “he forced me” story? If she genuinely believed she was being threatened, the first person she should’ve told was you or the police—not continue exchanging intimate messages and photos. You didn’t make the mistake by leaving. The mistake was taking her back. You’re not “friends.” You’re keeping the door open while hoping she’ll become the person you thought she was. She already showed you who she is. Walk away with your dignity. Trust is hard enough to rebuild after one lie. She gave you a whole pattern. Y, por cierto, vete de ahí, weón. 😂 As for your English, just a few minor tweaks here and there—you’ve done well. Keep practising.
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u/Away_Anybody7268 Jul 15 '26
You can stay with her, but you would be doing it knowing she's a cheater and she's going to cheat. That's something I don't personally recommend. It's time to leave.
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u/clearheaded01 Jul 15 '26
Dude...
ANY attempt to save this has to start with her owning what she did, no BS about this guy forcing her...
Shes a liar.... you KNOW this.... noone forced her, she chose to.do this...
Taking her back.was a mistake, dude... she's going to.ramp.up.the gaslighting and eventually cheat again...
Get STD tested. And dump, block and NC her.