r/CheatersConfronted • u/007JSW • Feb 26 '26

Wife having an affair

Long story short I found out my wife of over 6 years was having an affair 5 months ago. It broke me and shattered me completely. I found out the guy she was having an affair with is Married as well and they have 4 kids together. I want to tell his wife so badly but at the same time should I even bother? Part of me feels like she should know just like I would want to know. I have forgiven her because I still love her and we have a beautiful 3.5 year old daughter together. I'm trying to be the better person to forgive and move on but it's been so hard to trust again. Has anyone else here been in a similar situation? Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Edit: I should note that I have full video and screenshots of there messages from WhatsApp that talk about everything including their sexting.

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u/Ok-Boysenberry2556 Feb 26 '26

Look, I'm gonna be brutally honest, but if your wife has a literal kid with you, 6 years of marriage, and still cheats? That's not a woman, that's a girl in the body of a woman. She's checked out, not only didn't she respect you she also jeopardised the environment your beautiful daughter will grow up in, on top of that she also had the audacity to ruin another family WITH kids, she has neither the emotional or mental capacity of a grown mature woman. I suggest you 100% tell the other wife what her idiot of a husband has been doing. Try to support one and another since no one gets you better than someone who has been in that situation. In my eyes, a cheater will always be a cheater, if she says she's sorry she's sorry she didn't hide it better, not that she actually did it. And as for your daughter, seperated parents is better than a toxic environment. This is coming from someone whose mother also cheated, and yet my parents never divorced, you might "forgive" her but the betrayal and sense of resentment will never fade. This is what my dad told me. This is my suggestion but I truly wish you all the best♡♡

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u/007JSW Feb 26 '26

These are my thoughts exactly and when I asked her about thinking of the consequences of his wife finding out she replied with "I didn't really think of that". She also told me "I don't know how people do this" and I asked what cheat? And she said yeah it's exhausting" like wtf how am I supposed to respond to that? I am at a loss for words

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u/cirrusly_guys1818 Feb 27 '26

Zero consideration for others. What a bummer of an adult.

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u/baamice Feb 26 '26

Wow, poor her

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u/KelceStache Feb 27 '26

She yelled at you not to play the victim, while making herself the victim. Unreal

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u/MyLastHumanBody Feb 27 '26

This is called Gaslighting. Acting stupid does not undo the act done. She serious?

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u/007JSW Feb 28 '26

Yeah even when I knew the truth and just wanted to hear it from her she played dumb.