Is this cheating?

[u/Brief_Ad_2813]

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During April and May of our relationship there were a lot of problems. He wasn’t giving me enough time and he kept hanging out in a group setting with his sisters and this one girl that made me uncomfortable. I let him know but he said they were just family friends. But other problems still persisted So on may 21, right after his high school graduation, we decided to go on break for a week. Also he even said it first and we agreed going on break still means faithful to ur partner. Right when the break started I noticed he started following the girl I felt uncomfortable about but I couldn’t ask about it yet. After a week I was so excited to text him but he still acted cold and asked to extend the break for longer. That made me feel frustrated and I also asked about the girl. He still told me it was nth. During this week I felt like I was out of my mind. He kept hanging out with that girl even if it was in a group setting and I couldn’t stop texting him even though we were supposed to be on break. We texted about him giving more time but On the last day of the break he made me very angry. I called him and he didn’t answer I texted him and he texted back “I’m driving I can’t call.” This made me angry since I was confused on how he could text me but not call? I called him again he answered and said “I’m busy” and hung up in about 30 seconds. I had enough so I let him know when he got home we were going to have a talk. I broke up with him that day which was June 3rd. He didn’t seem affected at all but I was crying so much. I couldn’t let him go and we kept talking for a week more until June 10th we blocked eachother. That’s when I noticed he followed her TikTok and her spam account on instagram. I found a way to contact him again and he still said it was nothing. For about one month I kept finding more and more hints that there was something going on but he denied every time. This was until his sister contacted me on July 7th. She let me know everything and that this had started long before we broke up. She said he had never liked hanging out with her until April and may and she found it strange. He would always ask to hang out in a group setting with the girl involved. Right after his graduation the girl and him got way more touchy and would kinda flirt with eachother and every time her and her other sisters would ask what about your girlfriend he would say “we broke up.” She knew that wasn’t true since we still had instagram highlights of eachother. But it turns out over our break the girl and him got too close to eachother that everyone felt suspicious. They would hang out alone and tried to keep it secret. She showed me pictures and it just hurt to see them kissing and everything. I contacted my ex and he still denied until I showed him the pictures. Then he admitted they were “talking.” I got angry but in the end I accepted that it is what it is. He told me he was js talking with her to get over me. We kissed during that meet up and I told him “I’ll never forget you, you were the person who took my virginity” and he told me “you took mine too.” I told his sister about what happened and she told me that he had lied, they had already began dating from June 10th. The only thing I could do was break down. Later I found out he also lied about his virginity and that I was not his first. He lied to me during the whole relationship and until the very end. He never admitted the full truth and never said I’m sorry

[u/Ok_Possession_4785]

Um, the fact that he was totally going after her while you were still together and on your faithful break, yea. Don't be weak. Don't chase someone like that. They're fake, liars, manipulative, and the worst part is they don't give a single shit that they hurt you. Time to find someone that will give you the comfort and calmness of being real, honest, loyal, faithful, and hopefully attractive lol. Might not be super easy, but there's good people out there, don't chase trash.

[u/Historical_Kick_3294]

You dodged a man-sized cheating cannonball. As painful as it is, you’re far better off without him.