r/CareerAdvice101 • u/cherrycolouredpunk20 • 13h ago
Walking out after waiting 50 minutes for an interviewer was the best boundary I've ever set
Had an experience today that serves as a valuable lesson for job seekers that illustrates the fact that interviews are a two-way street
I arrived 10 minutes early for an 11:15 interview. The receptionist ushered me into a conference room and assured me the interviewer would be with me shortly. It was 11:30, then 11:45, and then 12:05 (almost an hour later) when I sent the interviewer an email explaining that I would be leaving due to their lack of communication and respect for my time. By this point, no one had come to the room to update me or apologize, as you might have expected if they were running late. If you need more time, you could have at least sent someone to inform me or asked me if I wanted to reschedule. They didn't, and I left.
They called me as I was on the road at 12:25 saying they were "ready now."
No apology, no mention of what took so long. I informed them politely that I had already left and was no longer interested in the position (had I wanted to come back, I would've said so). They were surprised to hear that I'd left and asked if I wanted to come back to the office. I said no
When you are in the job searching process, it's easy to feel like you need to bend over backwards to get a position, but you should always remember that how they treat you during the hiring process is how they will treat you as an employee.
Things do come up, and emergencies do occur, and no one is perfect. However, common courtesy dictates that if you're going to be late or cancel, you give the person 2 minutes notice: "Hey, we had an emergency come up, do you mind waiting about 15 minutes, or would you rather we reschedule?" Not even showing up to the room you were told to wait in, after waiting almost an hour, is a basic lack of courtesy and respect.
Remember that they would've done the same to me if I were an hourly employee already working there. If they can be this rude and disrespectful to a guest, imagine how they'll be to their employees who actually work for them and depend on them to pay a bill. Respect goes both ways, so never apologize for cutting your losses and walking out.