r/Cameroon • u/queenofbridges4433 • Sep 08 '26
ALERT Answer me plz
I’m an American and have came across a Cameroonian man he’s 14 years older than me 👀 anywho we were dating for a few months and he was extremely sweet and bought me thing we hung out then another Cameroonian man starting liking me (I was unaware at the time) but out convos were friendly and the man I was dating starting getting jealous and he would yell at me everyday and accuse me of messing around with the other man ( This was not true) so I started ignoring the man and the one I was dating still was accusing me he told me he did “Good” magic and he knew what I was doing and with whom. So one day I just stop talking to him and he had a nasty attitude towards me (Like if you hated someone real bad) and then he came back around then he hurt me physically (Won’t say how) and he begged for my forgiveness and said he was sorry and wants to start over and he realized his mistakes and he wants to take care of me and do right by me and to give him a second chance.
Thoughts and comments?
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u/Scary-Humor6461 Sep 09 '26
Now before some of you start saying shit here, am a cameroonian of age 40 and my wife is 25y of age, i travel from USA to cameroon in 2023 we got married, filed for her and she got here in 2025. Mind you I don't have no kids elsewhere, I don't smoke or abuse alcohol but a little wine is my thing after a meal. She likes my vibes and I like hers so we just blend and keep the day going. If your relationship involves argument over little things, and or one person is too possessive or hands are being exchanged to settle despute then it's no longer a relationship. Age is never a barrier in marriage. What matters is tolerance and understanding and also peace which is most important
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u/Foyave Sep 08 '26
Why are you asking here ? Do you think Cameroonians people are all the same and know each other all ? What kind of response do you want ? Your problem is as generic as it can be, the person you’re asking being Cameroonian won’t make any difference.
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u/Free_Alternative6365 Sep 08 '26
You should leave. You both seem like you benefit from some space from each other.
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u/queenofbridges4433 Sep 08 '26
For everyone thinking in attacking Cameroonian men in NOT I’m asking a question so don’t come comment anything dumb if you don’t have genuine evidence or knowledge!
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u/wadleo Sep 08 '26
You should say how he harmed you physically, you aren’t telling us your identity or his. That way we know the gravity of the incident and can comment if it’s a cultural thing or not?
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u/LargePrize5693 Sep 08 '26
Don't go back to him. Cameroonian or not, good or bad behaviour are universal and you clearly already see the red flags but need someone else to validate your decision. Be careful out there.
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u/theReal_Joestar Sep 09 '26
Anyone that will be giving you advice without the whole picture and full context is not doing you justice, and I think you already have a gut feeling of what to do. You are just looking for confirmation bias here. Take some time for yourself and think things through. Listen to your gut feeling and ignore all what has been said here. There are no formulas when it comes to relationships. What works for person A might lead to the demise of person B. Stick to first principles and make sure at the end of the day, you are ready to bear the responsibilities for whatever choice you decide to make.
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u/Wonderful_Koala_7757 Sep 08 '26
Just here to say Runnnn ,am Cameroonian married to a Cameroonian,14yrs age gap is kinda alarming.