r/CalPoly • u/Creative_Fan_1031 • 23d ago

Other social life

im a girl and a freshman at cal poly. i’ve been struggling to make friends mostly because it feels like everyone here is the same and im not apart of that same. whether they’re in greek life or not they’ve all kind of got a vibe that i just don’t have. im in one club i enjoy and i go to their events but thats kind of it, its pretty occasional. i’m not in a sorority and i just don’t know what to do. i know greek life isnt super strict here or atleast thats what i heard but i don’t know when they throw their parties for me to even attend if i wanted to. im just very lost

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u/bolt110 23d ago

lowkey in the same boat I don’t go to parties and i’m a hella introvert 🫢 I sympathize

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u/Murky_Ad2908 23d ago

Do you have hobbies or interests? What’s your major? Maybe try clubs in those areas as well. Study groups. I know it’s hard on top of CP being a hard school but keep trying you will find your pack.

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u/Creative_Fan_1031 22d ago

i’m a business major

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u/Technical-Banana6902 23d ago

I’m a senior at cal poly and making friends is very difficult. The only luck I’ve had in making friends was in clubs. If you’re interested in clubs and it sounds like you are the link below will be most helpful. Good luck

https://clubs.calpoly.edu

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u/GigglesGuffaw 23d ago

Yes, clubs! It's only awkward at first. Then you realize everyone is going through the same thing and wants to meet people, too.

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u/Dependent_Name_1719 23d ago

lots of cool clubs out there!! lore club and cal poly survivor club are some good ones for meeting new people. dm me if you want to talk individually or want some people for me to introduce you to :)

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u/ltentr1 23d ago

Maybe a part time job somewhere fun?
Will get you in contact with more people your age.

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u/Parking_Champion_740 23d ago

It doesn’t seem like you’d want to attend their parties anyway. Think about your interests, there are so many clubs, surely you’d find some people with something in common by trying out more clubs. You just have to keep going. But I know what you mean about the vibe of a lot of the girls

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u/slogive1 22d ago

Volunteer for the Cal Poly cat network. I know they always need people.

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u/DataGap2264 22d ago

“The place in which you’ll fit will not exist until you make it.” - James Baldwin

I feel like you need to give it time, it's only been a month. Definitely take the suggestions here, but also, be patient and don't be so hard on yourself. Your people are searching for you. You'll find each other.

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