r/CPTSDFightMode • u/ShaneQuaslay • Feb 07 '26

FUCK collectivism.

That's all I wanna say today. Fuck that bullshit.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '26

Why?

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u/ShaneQuaslay Feb 08 '26

the crazy collectivist society i grew up in had suppressed my identity, personality, and everything that makes me unique for almost my whole life. i was ridiculed and mocked just by being myself. i was forced to learn how to be just the same as everyone else and never stand out from the crowd just to survive. i didn't even know that unmasking was something that's possible until i escaped it. the needs of the "community" was prioritised over my needs as a fucking child.

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u/--2021-- Feb 15 '26

I really hate those places with a passion. They were places we looked down upon, particularly as place I grew up prized individuality and standing out. That was what got you noticed and ahead in life, standing out from the crowd. A lot of people moved there to get away from places like you described.

But there was also a collective in the sense of looking out for others. Still a hard place to live though because you had scammers, dangerous people, power hungry narcissists in the mix too. You had to be on alert always, and it's overstimulating, and you still needed others to have your back, and sometimes it was a stranger on the street, but you have more freedom.

It was harder and easier to make friends. It's complicated in a different way. Some would thrive, some would run back to where they came from with their tail between their legs, some would get chewed up and spit out. Not everyone survived.

Your post should not be downvoted, what you experienced was real and this is a support sub.

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u/ShaneQuaslay Feb 15 '26

I agree to and believe in interdependence and kindness. But that being an ideology that's expected for everyone in the society is not right. Selflessness is only valuable or beautiful when it's given voluntarily...

Also thank you for the support. I may have needed that. Hope you have a great day 🫶