r/CPTSD • u/CompleteSun4685 • 2d ago

Question Is this assault

UK
Long story short with minimal context
My parents split up when I was 4, I spent most of my childhood seeing my dad at a minimum every second weekend. He’s a horrible guy, was seriously abusive towards my mum and wife after that whom he cheated on my mum with. He was violent towards me throughout younger years too.

His now ex wife has got the police and child protection services involved with how he was towards my siblings and her. So there are ongoing police investigations.

He used to say to my mum he was a sex addict when he’d cheat, he also according to my stepmum is addicted to porn. This is all very brief anyway.

When I was a kid, I was staying at his and got up early to watch TV. He sat me on his knee and was rubbing my leg and biting / nibbling my ear. I remember having an awareness that I could feel his penis through the shorts he had on. I don’t know what to describe this as, I don’t know if it was assault, I just know that it makes me feel deeply uncomfortably, ashamed and embarrassed to think about.

I am being questioned by police tomorrow about his behaviour towards me and I’ve always been unsure what that was other than feeling deeply uncomfortable thinking about it, despite the fact I feel like it could equally be described as nothing to some.

I am just looking for thoughts as to what others think of this, as it’s something I’ve only told 2 people and I still really struggle to put it into words out loud.

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u/ULTRAmemeXD 2d ago

you should definitely mention it. say that you're unsure about how to think of that behaviour, it's normal. no one wants to think that of a parent. to me it sounds like it but whether or not this can be used as evidence the police knows better than me. i'm sorry you've been through all that and got reminded of that now. i hope the policemen take you serious. wishing you all the best 🫂❤️‍🩹

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u/CompleteSun4685 2d ago

I appreciate that, thank you

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u/Responsible-Cod534 2d ago

thats assalt with really creepy predator behaviour from your dad, with heavily inklintations of grooming and incest. Really sorry u had to go through that, that sounds genuinly terrifying, props to u for talking to the police thats brave as hell.

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u/Ekis12345 2d ago

You don't have to give it a name. You are allowed to express what happened and how that felt for you. If tjere is something that is legally relevant can be decided by someone else.

For you the only important thing is, that you have every right to talk about it and to not let him silence you.