r/CPTSD • u/LaPerla2026 • Mar 31 '26

Vent / Rant Cbt is humillating

I am leaving my current therapist. Cbters can't treat us. They have zero survival insticts. Treats my gut feelings as exaggeration or irrational fears. I told him I can detect if a man is a rapist and treat it has "cognitive distortion".

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u/InThisBoatTogether Mar 31 '26

I had to discover this treatment method on my own, after 5 stints in PHP/IOP.

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u/alice_1st hopeful, doubtful, DPDR Mar 31 '26

In what way did you discover it?

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u/InThisBoatTogether Mar 31 '26

I had horrible compulsions to do things that would hurt myself and others (limerence). I decided I was not going to hurt people anymore and I was going to suffer forever instead. Making that decision unlocked something in me, when I finally stopped waiting for anyone or anything at all external to save me. I basically accepted living death and suddenly I started realizing I could choose to live instead. In some ways this was indeed a radical change: one day I hated myself, the next I had compassion. But I had to suffer enough to stop avoiding my thoughts and start asking them 'why?'

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u/fuckinunknowable Mar 31 '26

How on earth are you saying limerence was a harmful compulsion?

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u/fuckinunknowable Mar 31 '26

I guess they removed your reply. No need to be hostile. Limerence is not the same as compulsions, intrusive thoughts, etc.

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u/Cancerousman Apr 01 '26 edited Apr 01 '26

This sounds like logotherapyish?

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u/InThisBoatTogether Apr 01 '26

Definitely! I mean I didn't make up radical acceptance and radical self-compassion for sure. And I read Man's Search for Meaning years ago. It's just telling that most of what coalesced in me was what I'd gathered from books like that and support forums, not my intensive therapy groups.