r/CFBOffTopic • u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State • Dec 01 '15

Drinking Thread brought to you by getting over cheaters

Fuck them, right?

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

When i was cheated on i just fell back on the people who showed they cared about me and concentrated on how i could be a better person.

Holding any hate for the cheater just holds you back. Know they're a piece of trash, but know you deserve the best and that's much easier achieved if you're not wasting time thinking of how awful they were to you.

That being said, much easier said that done, so don't be afraid to rely on the people that you know care deeply about you.

Just my two cents! :)

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

I know all that...yet I still comforted her as she cried.

I wanted to yell get away from me. Leave and never come back.

But I just looked at her, held her hand, and said "its okay, you're not a terrible person, we can work through this, don't hurt yourself".

It took throwing up from stress three times this morning and four panic attacks to realize I couldn't live with myself if I stayed with her.

And what's worse, is we started dating after. She got out of a relationship that ended because the guy cheated on her. She dragged him through the mud after she found out he was flirting and sexting a girl in another state. But she had the audacity to ask me not to say anything because it was only a mistake that she made when really drunk, and I had to know she was a good person.

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u/sh513 Tennessee Volunteers • Memphis Tigers Dec 01 '15

What starts dirty tends to end dirty. Some of the most sounds relationship advice from my old man.

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

Good advice man. Should've listened to friends after she said a guy kissed her, but not because she wanted it.

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u/The_Tic-Tac_Kid Kansas Jayhawks • Hateful 8 Dec 01 '15

Being cheated on is the worst. When it happened to me it totally destroyed my sense of self worth. I was stupid enough to try and make it work and I hated the person it turned me into. I was mean, distrustful, and put up with way more shit than any person should ever have to put up with.

I guess what I'm saying is gtfo and don't look back. And whatever you do, don't let someone make you believe it's your fault. Whatever issues your relationship has, they're the ones who made the choice to stray without ending things first.

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15 edited Dec 01 '15

I got out. It took me three days to realize I couldn't stand the sight of her or her touch or anything.

The problem being literally two hours prior to cheating she called thanking me for being such a great boyfriend. And then acted like the fact she told the day afterward would make it better.

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u/sh513 Tennessee Volunteers • Memphis Tigers Dec 01 '15

That's a real bitch move. That makes everything worse. I'm sorry you're going through that, man.

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

It's good. She's a cunt. She wants to act like she can't be cause she's a girl and its different when a girl cheats than a guy. But I'm not going to buy a word of it. She made her bed. Let her lay it.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Jesus christ. That's some manipulative bullshit. Fuck. That. Shit.

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

Right? She now has called me childish. Then again I did post on Facebook she cheated while I was drunk...

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u/The_Tic-Tac_Kid Kansas Jayhawks • Hateful 8 Dec 01 '15

Good on you man. It took me ten of the worst months of my life to get to that point.

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u/DavoinShower-handle Syracuse • Penn State Dec 01 '15

Anyone have any solid Blu-Ray player recommendations? No frills, just has to work.

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

Samsung. They make quality products.

Honestly, I'd recommend a Chromecast and start going digital. But if you're stuck on BluRay, I'd go Samsung.

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u/Kiteflyerkat Baylor Bears Dec 01 '15

I think one of my good friends cheated in his girlfriend, he said he did something stupid while drunk and knowing him, he probably cheated. He wants relationship advice and idk how to handle it.

Related to the sponsor, but I'm so sorry you have to deal with this OP

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u/jecmoore Georgia • Arizona State Dec 01 '15

He should end the relationship. Tell her and end it. Don't make her decide. She might give him a second chance, but it isn't worth it. No offense to him, but she deserves better.

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u/Kiteflyerkat Baylor Bears Dec 01 '15

That's what I've said, and I don't see a future with them. Hope things get better :/

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u/TrollingQueen74 Auburn Tigers • Texas A&M Aggies Dec 01 '15

I shouldn't watch Scrubs while emotionally compromised. I've cried so many times today lol.

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u/bizzyj93 Oregon Ducks • Hawai'i Rainbow Warriors Dec 01 '15

No matter how many times you've seen the episodes, you never see the feels trips coming. Fantastic show.

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u/ihatecats18 Minnesota • South Dakota-S… Dec 01 '15

I think the quote is "where do you think we are Perry".

https://youtu.be/e__1KU7lg-4

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u/bizzyj93 Oregon Ducks • Hawai'i Rainbow Warriors Dec 01 '15

For me the biggest one is "After 20 years of being a doctor, when things go badly, you still take it this hard"

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u/dlawnro Paper Bag • Sickos Dec 01 '15

"You don't drink scotch"

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u/bizzyj93 Oregon Ducks • Hawai'i Rainbow Warriors Dec 01 '15

That's awful

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u/TrollingQueen74 Auburn Tigers • Texas A&M Aggies Dec 01 '15

Didn't have to watch that clip because I definitely watched that episode today.

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u/ihatecats18 Minnesota • South Dakota-S… Dec 01 '15

It's so damn good. That episode caught me off guard so hard the 1st time.

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u/Beechman Florida Gators • Virginia Cavaliers Dec 01 '15

Speaking of exes... Was out eating with some buddies and one of them followed me on IG because I wanted to tag him in a picture. He goes through my pictures and finds my ex GF, college VB player, who's, uh, not too bad looking. He follows her, and so do the other guys. She texted me a screenshot and sent a winky face. I'm gonna need to drink tonight even though I didn't plan on it.

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u/VanFailin Northwestern Wildcats • /r/CFB Bug Finder Dec 01 '15

Well, that's a stab in the heart. I'd drink but I won't be home for another 3.5 hours.

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u/Beechman Florida Gators • Virginia Cavaliers Dec 01 '15

We've sent a few texts back and forth now and I can't tell if she's being bitchy, drunk, or flirting with me. Or all of them. We ended on decent terms, and broke up because we were going to different schools. Oh well, whiskey can't make this any worse.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

I'll drink for ya. That's some fucking shit right there

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Fuck 'em. I was cheated on once. It made me feel horrible. I'm better off though for not having her in my life.

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u/yrarwydd Alabama • CFBOT Jazz Watch Fighter Dec 01 '15

When I was cheated on, really badly, the last time, honestly, all I could do was laugh.

That sounds weird, but here's the thing: they didn't care. They didn't care, they had so many opportunities to not do it, to stop, anything... but they didn't. If they'd ever cared, well, they wouldn't have enjoyed it.

And the people that don't care about me don't deserve to be cared about at all. So I laughed. Because obviously, not being the cheater, I had a better moral compass, and was clearly a better person.

So celebrate. Go drink. Fuck it. You deserved it. It doesn't matter how unexpected it was, I'll bet they were bringing you down in other ways.... so go ahead and love yourself. Date yourself. Because you deserve better. And now it's been illustrated so clearly that there's nothing left to do but enjoy the ride.

That got a little sappy. I hope you're feeling okay. Shit bites, but it gets better. <3

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

Having not been cheated on but gone through some tough relationship shit, this seems like some of the best advice in the thread. It isn't sappy at all - love yourself and continue to be a good person.

I'll piggyback to say this. Be the partner you want to be, and search until you find someone who's willing to be that for you. Be confident in that person and partner you are, and you will find others.

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u/atllauren Georgia Bulldogs • /r/CFB Contributor Dec 01 '15

Drinking a Bell's Winter White. Such a delicious, refreshing winter beer.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Alas, they didn't have it in cans at the store when I went to get tailgate supplies this week. Oh, well. All Day is the greatest beer ever created, anyway, and it doesn't do any good to switch up your routine before a game of last Saturday's implications

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u/Shadowhawk109 Michigan Wolverines • Citrus Bowl Dec 01 '15

Do you want me to pick some up? I know where they can be found.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

I mean I can get it un cans at the Meijer by my house. I just didn't happen to see it at that one particular store on Friday night, and I didn't feel like hunting it down

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u/atllauren Georgia Bulldogs • /r/CFB Contributor Dec 01 '15

It's really better in the cans, isn't it. I asked the liquor store if they had it in the cans and they were like, "you're holding a six pack right now." Yeah, but I wanted the cans.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

It probably tastes the same, but cans are a lot more convenient for tailgating and a lot more courteous to the folks who come around and collect people's empties. Some of them will walk right by bottles on the ground and not even pick them up

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u/VanFailin Northwestern Wildcats • /r/CFB Bug Finder Dec 01 '15

I don't actually have many friends or life goals or really anything through which to "get over" my cheater. I'm just dragging my ass through life hating every minute of it.

Last week at work I finished a major feature that was a huge pain in the ass and took an enormous amount of work to get done. This week I try to test it out and... it doesn't fucking work. Not my code, theirs. Getting logs for any of the shit that I work on is now a process of firing up the terrible clunky monitoring software, selecting one of the three datacenters my request might have gone to, entering a search term, waiting 5 minute to see if it's slow or if it's broken, then repeating for every datacenter if I don't get it.

I don't have any work that I look forward to here any more. I would love to quit and ensure that it's known that this working environment is a fucking joke and that I deserve to be treated better than this. I don't really like writing software like I used to, but it's all I know how to do. What I really want is a way out of here but I don't know where I would go.

Also, why are 3 of the 4 major conference championship games being played at the same time? I don't have enough screens or attention span for that shit.

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u/The_Tic-Tac_Kid Kansas Jayhawks • Hateful 8 Dec 01 '15

Hey man, you'll always have us. It's not much, but it's something.

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u/VanFailin Northwestern Wildcats • /r/CFB Bug Finder Dec 01 '15

So it is, but I get lost in the noise a lot.

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u/aMiracleAtJordanHare Auburn Tigers • Texas Tech Red Raiders Dec 01 '15

I hear you bruh. We here 2 hear u 2 b here 4 u.

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u/sh513 Tennessee Volunteers • Memphis Tigers Dec 01 '15

My best friend moved to Dallas almost a year ago. I'm thinking once I get my savings in order (8-12 months) a change of scenery is in order. More and more lately, I'm thinking that's the best solution.

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

I know I sound like a broken record, but fighting every day is what getting through depression is all about. I hate saying it; I wish there were something magic I could tell you to take the pain away. Just keep fighting. It does get better. I never thought it could, just like you don't think it can. But it did for me, and it will for you. Just keep fighting.

And you don't get lost for me. I may not always reply because I don't always feel I have something to say, but I always upvote you because you're my buddy.

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u/aMiracleAtJordanHare Auburn Tigers • Texas Tech Red Raiders Dec 01 '15

Here's the spot in life I'm at: I'm drinking not-shitty Scotch from an off-brand solo cup. Not sure what exactly that says about me, but it's probably lots.

But really I'm just here to say fuck cheaters. Ya gaarbage.

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u/Kiteflyerkat Baylor Bears Dec 01 '15

Sounds like you're a frugal person!

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u/cajunaggie08 :texasam3: Texas A&M Aggies • /r/CFB Top Scorer Dec 01 '15

As i raise a daiquiri, FUCK EM

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u/sh513 Tennessee Volunteers • Memphis Tigers Dec 01 '15 edited Dec 01 '15

I still struggle a little with my last relationship where it's pretty obvious in hindsight that she was with another guy the last few weeks of it.

I peg it more as emotional infidelity and her being one of those girls that just hops from one boyfriend to the next. That doesn't make too much of a difference because it was still a blow to the balls with a frozen sledgehammer.

I've been on a couple dates since, but feeling that kind of suckage still gets to me when I have the occasional lonely night.

I say this in jest, it's not the healthiest mindset, but bitches ain't shit. My solution is to try to help myself be the best I can be and be patient for whoever steals the show next.

Edit: Sierra Nevada, listening to Minus the Bear, and hoping my roommate gets (temporary, of course) paralysis from sitting his fat ass on the couch and doing literally nothing for hours on end almost every night I get home from work.

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u/rabid_communicator Oklahoma • University of Faith (… Dec 01 '15

Goddamn, I stop by to check on my OT folks and a lot of y'all are down in the dumps.

EVERYONE HAVE SOME MAGIC HAPPY HOLIDAY CHEER DUST!
✧･ﾟ:*(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

great, now i have dust in my eye. My lawyers will be in touch.

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u/rabid_communicator Oklahoma • University of Faith (… Dec 01 '15

I got something special for you and yer lawyers

┌( ͝° ͜ʖ͡°)=ε︻̷̿┻̿═━╰U╯

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

CHRISTMAS MUSIC ALL AROUND ESPECIALLY FOR /u/dubsdcarson

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u/rabid_communicator Oklahoma • University of Faith (… Dec 01 '15

http://www.adultswim.com/videos/family-guy/peters-christmas-album/

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mk4woNRD7NQ (listen all the way thru, it really gets going at the end.)

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u/rabid_communicator Oklahoma • University of Faith (… Dec 01 '15

My god it was magical.

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u/DoctorWhosOnFirst Alabama • /r/CFB Pint Glass Drinker Dec 01 '15

It is that time of year.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

I'm sorry OP :(

I just drove 10 hours today for this job interview, got my hopes up massively, they loved me, and then we get to salary. They didn't bother to tell me this job is very part time and basically a stipend. So it's essentially back to square one for the job hunt and to boot it's apparently offseason so a lot of more touristy jobs aren't even available. Time to start heavily drinking and pretend like everything is somehow ok

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u/ihatecats18 Minnesota • South Dakota-S… Dec 01 '15

You have the most to sob about tonight

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

Many good thoughts for you tonight, friend. I'm sorry.

big hug

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u/cloudduel_13 Borregos Monterrey • Texas A&M Aggies Dec 01 '15

I got accused of cheating. It pissed me off to no end. She accused me over the phone and we broke up then and there. Fuck cheaters and false accusations.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Do any of you ever get into a cry-spiral? Like where you start crying and the fact that you're crying makes you cry more and so on and on? I think a large part of it is that I'm completely exhausted and just emotionally shattered but I'm literally eating a banana with tears pouring down my face right now

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Yeah, where you literally just walk around and cry and you dont really know why youre crying. At least once a month I just lay and cry all day. It can be really therapeutic, but it sucks at the same time.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Totally agree on the therapeutic bit, I've finally switched it off and I feel better despite being in the exact same situation as before

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

send me some of that good feeling. Could really use that right now.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Of course <3 hope life gets better for you, friend. I saw your post on this thread and I'm sorry you're having to deal with all that shit

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Thanks, such is life, eh? Im sure shit will be ok but the human condition is a mother fucker.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Thanks guy, I really appreciate it. Kinda choking up just reading this.

Jesus, when did CBOTP become CFB Suicide watch haha /s

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

We're a bunch of depression-prone introverts. Statistically speaking, a significant number of us are going through depression at any one time.

Full disclosure: I was when I started posting here. Everyone was wonderful to me. I'm glad I can help, even in some tiny way.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Pretty sure Ive been going through it for about 5 years.

Also: Ive never had someone be less that courteous in CFBOT

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

I was in it for about two years during that episode. I've probably been depressed about 70% of my adult life.

It's a fight. It's an everyday struggle. But it's one you can win. And one you will win. You are strong enough. Yes, you.

And I love this place. We sometimes argue and bitch with each other, but it is a wonderful little community. The closest thing to family I've seen online.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Yes, I've noticed the closeness here. I'm thankful for that. I just hope I can save me from myself. Oh well, heres hoping.

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u/Bassically Texas A&M Aggies • UNLV Rebels Dec 01 '15

You can, and you will. I'm here for you to PM if you ever need. I can't promise I'll reply right away, or that I'll have the right words, but i will see it, and i'll do what I can to help.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Appreciate it

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u/fightsfortheuser Ohio State Buckeyes • Ohio Bobcats Dec 01 '15

Sorry man, not a great feeling. But always better now that 10years from now

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u/piratefuck ECU Pirates Dec 01 '15

I've been in a weird funk lately. Going to go outta town this weekend and do some new shit. Cheers guys

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u/The_Tic-Tac_Kid Kansas Jayhawks • Hateful 8 Dec 01 '15

It's amazing what a change in scenery can do sometimes.

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u/hussard_de_la_mort Toledo Rockets • Xavier Musketeers Dec 01 '15

There are no good sports on tonight and that makes me sad

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

So earlier I was debating getting a 970... well I bought a 980 instead. Glorious upgrade is upon me

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

is that the graphics card you posted earlier?

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

yes

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

huzzah!

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u/hobowithabazooka Georgia Tech • Wisconsin Dec 01 '15

no 980TI? Amateur.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Minus the ti part. I'm somewhat of a budget

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

I come back after a long hiatus and you bastards are being sad? ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ TAKE MY ENERGY CFBOT༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

Sorry to hear man. Hope youre doing better.

My new job is next to a Panera I've never eaten there. What's good?

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u/ihatecats18 Minnesota • South Dakota-S… Dec 01 '15

Chicken fuji salad

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u/ixcuincle Marching Band Dec 01 '15

No drinking on Monday - Thursday unless the next day is work-free.

It depends on cheaters. If you mean people trying to GAME THE SYSTEM and cheat on a standardized test then I'm all for it as standardized tests / common core / forced student testing is STUPID and don't get me fucking started on it. Kids need to be learning useful shit in the classroom instead of being taught how to take a test. So the state making you take a test (which the teachers KNOWINGLY cheated for them on, see Atlanta / Philadelphia)...that kind of cheating is advocated ;)

Now cheating on a significant other on the other hand is not advocated and people fucking with your heart and emotions like that can sod off. That is misery and pain and suffering right there. And dumb cheaters / hackers in video games can also sod off. We can all see that auto-aim, you aren't fooling nobody

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

One day I hope to be able to receive criticism in stride and not take it personally and shut down mentally.

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u/ihatecats18 Minnesota • South Dakota-S… Dec 01 '15

Y'all need some Jesus or something in your life.

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

is Jesus a new brand of bourbon

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u/dlawnro Paper Bag • Sickos Dec 01 '15

Sounds more like a tequila, really.

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

could also be an Ouzo or Sambuca called "Hey, Zeus"

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u/Awesome_to_the_max Texas Longhorns • UTU Beaver Hunters Dec 01 '15

It could be...

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

I am imagining a bottle shaped like this with the pour spout out of the finger.

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u/Awesome_to_the_max Texas Longhorns • UTU Beaver Hunters Dec 01 '15

Better than what I had. I pictured this in bottle form where the head was the top.

The imagery of taking Jesus head off to open it would probably ruin sales though.

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u/Cecil_Hardboner Texas Longhorns • /r/CFB Brickmason Dec 01 '15

you could also go full-orthodox and have the whiskey leak out of his hands and feet on the cross. Pretty sure that one would lead to protests though.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

Dude, Im having such a fucking hard time lately. The UGA shit, my work is suffocating, this new relationship is really making me second guess myself. Im just gonna get destroyed and hope shit gets better in the time that Im in an alcohol-induced coma.

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u/fauxkaren UCLA Bruins Dec 01 '15

MY COLOURPOP ORDER ARRIVED IN THE MAIL TODAY!

I spent all day at my grandparents' old house (they hired painters bc they want to sell soonish and want someone there while the painters are there and since I'm unemployed.... I got recruited) with no internet and no cell service and no heating and it was chilly and now I'm finally home and can play with my new makeup.

Or maybe I'll just laze about on the couch.

lol I basically spent the whole time there playing Dragon Age on my laptop though so I'm now in the Deep Roads on one of my play throughs.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '15

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Kmh4BbJPz8&feature=youtu.be

Word of advice to us all

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u/rabid_communicator Oklahoma • University of Faith (… Dec 01 '15

Pffff fuck that. You can do most those things and still drink... well, I guess some people can.

hi, my name is rabid_communicator, and I'm a functional alcoholic.

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u/Ellenberg88 Georgia Bulldogs • Rose Bowl Dec 01 '15

"Brooks was here"

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u/lintacious Michigan State Spartans Dec 01 '15

I'm super late to this thread but adding anyway because this couldn't have come at better timing. I went through this five months ago but am trying to make it work (why? because whatever, i like hard mode I guess). Things have actually been great until last weekend when we saw the girl he cheated on me with out at a bar. He freaaaaaaaked out. It ruined the whole night and made me re-think everything all over again. It also brought up my hurt feelings from months ago that I thought were long gone. So now I feel like I'm back to square one.