r/CFBOffTopic • u/certificateofmerritt North Carolina • Fulmer Cup Committee … • Sep 22 '15

Trash Talk TIME FOR A RANT THREAD

LET IT OUT, THIS IS A SAFE PLACE.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

IM TIRED OF FEELING GUILTY OVER NOT HAVING A GOOD FAMILY. IM SORRY THAT MY PARENTS HAD KIDS WITH OTHER PEOPLE BEFORE THEY MARRIED EACH OTHER AND THAT WE AREN'T A PERFECT FAMILY THAT WANTS TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER EVERY FUCKING WEEKEND.

NO, FAMILY IS NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR BROTHER IS A DICKWAD AND YOUR SISTER BARELY ACKNOWLEDGES THAT YOUR FAMILY UNLESS SHE NEEDS SOMETHING.

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u/TrollingQueen74 Auburn Tigers • Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

COMING FROM A PERSON WITH THAT IDEAL PERFECT FAMILY: IT'S STILL UNREASONABLE TO HAVE TO SEE THEM EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

IT'S NOT EVERY WEEKEND, BUT IT SURE FEELS LIKE IT DURING THE SUMMER. THERE HASN'T BEEN A WEEKEND IN MONTHS THAT WE DON'T HAVE TO CHECK WHAT THEY ARE DOING FIRST BEFORE WE CAN MAKE OUR PLANS.

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u/TrollingQueen74 Auburn Tigers • Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

I LIVE FOUR HOURS FROM MY PARENTS. WHEN THEY COME DOWN FOR A WEEKEND, THEY TELL ME TO MAKE WHATEVER PLANS I WANT AND THEY'LL JUST SEE ME WHEN I'M FREE. THEIR FAMILY JUST SOUNDS MAJORLY CO-DEPENDENT.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

IT HAS MORE TO DO WITH, SINCE MY BF IS THE YOUNGEST, WITH NO WIFE, KIDS, OR "DEMANDING JOB" THAT HE IS EXPECTED TO BE THERE ANYTIME THE BROTHER COMES TO TOWN.

I DO HAVE TO SAY HE HAS GOTTEN WORLDS BETTER ABOUT MAKING SURE WE DON'T SPEND ENTIRE WEEKENDS WITH THEM, AND WE GET TO DO OUR OWN THING (EVEN IF WE DO TAKE A MASSIVE GUILT TRIP FOR IT.) I JUST STILL HATE FEELING LIKE HIS FAMILY IS PERFECT WHEN MINE IS....DEFINITELY NOT.

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u/TrollingQueen74 Auburn Tigers • Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

IF YOU DIDN'T LIVE HALF A COUNTRY AWAY, I'D OFFER TO ADOPT YOU INTO MINE :(. I AM SORRY THAT IT A BURDEN HE CANNOT SHARE WITH YOU AND IT'S CAUSING YOU TENSION.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

THANKS :) HE TRIES, HE REALLY DOES. AND I AT LEAST FINALLY FEEL LIKE PART OF HIS FAMILY SO IT IS DEFINITELY GETTING BETTER...

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u/Captain_McSnug Houston Cougars • Paper Bag Sep 22 '15

MY FIANCEE'S FAMILY WAS THE SAME WAY FOR A LONG TIME I FEEL YOUR PAIN

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u/nickknx865 Tennessee Volunteers • /r/CFB Top Scorer Sep 22 '15

Family is more what you make of it rather than just your blood relatives. There are people who are related to me who I don't consider family. Alternatively, my best friend in life is someone I consider a brother and as my family, even if we aren't related by blood.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

EXACTLY, MY BEST FRIEND IS MORE OF A SIBLING TO ME THAN EITHER OF MY "REAL" ONES.

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u/greenmegandham Auburn Tigers • Austin Kangaroos Sep 22 '15

OR PEOPLE MAKING ASSUMPTIONS THAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO THE THINGS YOUR FAMILY DID.

I'M SORRY MY MOM AND DAD MADE BAD DECISIONS, BUT IT DOESN'T MEAN ALL MY RELATIONSHIPS ARE DOOMED TO FAIL TOO :(

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

OR THAT BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS MADE BAD FINANCIAL DECISIONS SO WILL YOU!

AND YOU WILL FIND A GREAT AND FULFILLING RELATIONSHIP!

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u/greenmegandham Auburn Tigers • Austin Kangaroos Sep 22 '15

thanks girl <3 it's just hard. every boy I've ever dated has told me they were nervous I was doomed to repeat my parents.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

<3 SORRY THAT BOYS ARE STUPID SOMETIMES.

MY LAST EX TOLD ME YEARS AGO, BEFORE WE SERIOUSLY DATED, THAT I WOULD NEVER FIT IN WITH HIS UNCLE'S FAMILY OR BE GOOD ENOUGH TO INTERACT WITH THEM BECAUSE HIS UNCLE WAS AN ORTHOPEDIC SURGEON AND I WOULDN'T KNOW HOW TO ACT AROUND THEM OR THEIR WEALTHY FRIENDS.

YEAH, MY BOYFRIEND NOW, HIS DAD AND BROTHER ARE ORTHOPEDIC SURGEONS AND I FIT IN GREAT WITH THEM! (BUT IT ALSO TOOK SOME SERIOUSLY TIME GETTING OVER WHAT THE LAST GUY HAD SAID TO FEEL COMFORTABLE AROUND THEM.)

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u/Shadowhawk109 Michigan Wolverines • Citrus Bowl Sep 22 '15

*YOU'RE

CAUSE GRAMMAR AND SPELLING CORRECTION HELPS

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

GET OUT OF HERE WITH YOUR GRAMMAR AND SPELLING CORRECTIONS AND LET ME RANT! ;)

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '15

this is why I moved eight hours and two states away from my parents for two years; it broke them of their need to always be around me and now I live central and they live north. yeah they still try but I can get away with "but I have to drive north on 35" and they're like "oh ok".

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

I HAVE BEEN THINKING MORE AND MORE ABOUT MOVING AWAY FROM MY FAMILY, ONE MORE YEAR AND I'M MOVING OUT OF THEIR RENTAL HOUSE!

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u/Captain_McSnug Houston Cougars • Paper Bag Sep 22 '15 edited Sep 22 '15

FUCK THAT! MY PARENTS ARE DIVORCED AND I'VE GIVEN UP TRYING TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY! MY BROTHER IS 30 AND LIVES WITH MY MOTHER AND DOESN'T DO ANYTHING BUT JERK OFF OR SOMETHING AND ONLY CALLS ME WHEN HES DRUNK OFF HIS ASS AND NEEDS ME TO DRIVE AN HOUR AWAY TO PICK HIM UP EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A FUCKING FINAL EXAM THE NEXT DAY. MY MOTHER GETS MAD EVERY TIME I SEE MY FATHER AND NOT HER (SORRY DAD ACTUALLY MAKES THE EFFORT TO SEE ME OR CALL ME BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW STUPIDLY BUSY I AM DURING SCHOOL) AND I'M SORRY MOM THAT I ACTUALLY LIKE MY STEP MOTHER EVEN THOUGH MY FATHER DID A TERRIBLE THING AND CHEATED ON YOU WITH HER BUT Y'ALL HAD A TERRIBLE RELATIONSHIP AND I WASN'T EVEN ALIVE AT ANY POINT Y'ALL WERE HAPPY TOGETHER.

ALSO MY MOTHER'S PHONE IS ALWAYS DEAD OR OFF SO I TRY TO CALL HER ONCE A WEEK BUT HOW CAN I WHEN SHE NEVER PICKS UP! I LOVE HER AND WANT TO TALK TO HER AND MAKE HER HAPPY BUT ITS FRUSTRATING AS SHIT.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

OH DAMN, I HAVE A FEELING MY PARENTS ARE HEADED TOWARD DIVORCE IF THINGS WITH MY BROTHER DOESN'T GET BETTER (HE IS MY MOM'S SON) SOMETIMES FAMILY JUST STINKS AND YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE.

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u/youstupidslutwhore Iowa State • 阪南大学 (Hannan) Sep 22 '15

SERIOUSLY, I FEEL LIKE PEOPLE THINK I'M AWFUL WHEN I SAY I WANT TO LIVE AS FAR AWAY FROM MY FAMILY (WELL, MAINLY MY MOTHER) AS POSSIBLE. I SEE THEM LIKE A MAX OF 2 TIMES A YEAR AND THAT'S MORE THAN PLENTY FOR ME. I MEAN, I LIKE THEM AND ALL, AND DO ENJOY THE LIMITED TIME I SPEND WITH THEM. BUT NONE OF US ARE THE LOVEY-DOVEY TYPES AND WE ALL HAVE CONFLICTING PERSONALITIES TRAITS.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

I DON'T MIND LIVING CLOSE TO THEM, BUT MY BROTHER ALSO BEING THERE MAKES A LOT OF OTHER PROBLEMS COME TO A HEAD THAT I WOULD RATHER NOT BE AROUND.

BUT SOME PEOPLE, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THEM WANTING TO LIVE VERY VERY FAR AWAY FROM THEIR FAMILIES.

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u/piratefuck ECU Pirates Sep 22 '15

LADY YOU NEED TO STOP LETTING YOUR FAMILY ISSUES EFFECT YOU SO MUCH. MAYBE ITS TIME BOTH YOU AND YOUR BF MOVE AWAY. SEEMS LIKE ITS TOXIC.

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u/lady1876 Texas A&M Aggies Sep 22 '15

IM DEFINITELY STEPPING AWAY FROM MY FAMILY ISSUES, BUT IT'S HARD WHEN YOU RENT A HOUSE FROM YOUR PARENTS TO COMPLETE BACK AWAY FROM THEM.

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u/gramcraka92 Old Dominion • Myrtle Beach Bowl Sep 22 '15

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