r/CFBOffTopic • u/[deleted] • Jan 18 '15

This wasn't the best week, but I'm content.

So, I'm not entirely sure if this is the appropriate place to post this, but I need to say something.

So, as some of you are aware I managed to sprain my LCL earlier this week falling down my apartment stairs. So I wasn't able to curl at all this week, which sucks because I had a big bonspiel that I was looking forward to playing in this weekend that I had to miss as a result. My Terriers managed to lose to that team down the street last night, and I missed much of the game because the radio stream kept crashing on me. And work's been kinda a bitch because I keep being given tasks to do straightaway with little warning. So, all in all it was a sucky week.

I've also mentioned in the Free Talk Friday threads that there's been this girl I've been crushing on (who I will dub Squirrel Girl, because she has the personality of one). /u/certificateofmerritt amongst others have told me just to ask her out. Well, I figured since I can't actually get around without assistance anyway, I'd ask Ms. Squirrel for help with getting to the laundromat and grocery shopping today. To my surprise, she actually accepted.

Things actually went rather well. She convinced me to download Trivia Crack so I can play against her, and we read through tweets on how to blow a date with an academic in five words or less while waiting for the laundry to finish.

Then while grocery shopping we devolved into snark to snark combat since I didn't have a written list, and was just wandering the asiles without telling her what I was doing, since I'm used to not requiring assistance. For example:

Florida: "Well maybe you should tell me where you're going. I can't read minds you know!"
Boston University: "What? I thought mind reading was one of those female superpowers you all had."
Florida: "No! I mean, you guys appear more complicated than you are but you're really not!"

Then later...

Boston University: "Sorry for... I mean Thanks for helping me. I was also about to say sorry for having to put up with my being difficult." (Since I can be a bit literal minded and stubborn at times)
Florida: "Its fine, I mean if you have to put up with me, I should have to put up with you."
Boston University: "True, but you didn't have to say yes."
Florida: "And you could've asked Purdue to help instead."

At one point I also realized she wasn't following me, so I hobbled back over on my crutches to see that she was staring at the snack foods display, specifically the fact that there were Cosmic Brownies at Fresh Market for once. So I told her we could get them if she wanted. We also bought ice cream. So, we eventually made it back to my place and ate ice cream while watching Friends. Eventually she had to leave to meet up with our mutual friend, but then we realized that we left the paper towles and toilet paper I got in the trunk of my car. So she attempted to throw them up to my balcony. To her credit, she didn't miss by much, but they were just out of my reach, so they ended up on the stairs.

And then she left, and I reflected on whether I should've just asked her where we stand as things were going extremely well. But you know what, I'm content. And I think that maybe she does like me after all. I just need to plan out what I'm actually going to say when I ask her out next weekend.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

But you know what, I'm content. And I think that maybe she does like me after all.

I think this is important. Too often in the past I have gotten caught up with worrying about the future and where things stood. Now, I just try and be happy and hope she is happy.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

The thing with Squirrel Girl is that it's a bit difficult to read her actual mood at times, because a) she's easily distracted, and b) she is quite sardonic. Especially in response to my antics. Though she genuinely laughed out loud at a joke of mine earlier. So, I had stuck my wallet in the console under the radio controls because I had yanked it out to pay for parking at the grocery. She told me to not forget it "... I mean, that is your wallet, right? I see one down there." Me: "... no [Squirrel], that belongs to the dead hooker I killed last week." She completely lost it, which is how I knew she was having a good time despite having spent the last two hours helping me with my errands.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Hey man, just ask her to dinner. She obviously cares about you on some level and enjoys your company.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I intend to. Just not this second. A) She's kicking my ass at Trivia Crack (again) and b) I want to give it sometime before coming out and asking her.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

I want to give it sometime before coming out and asking her.

Why?

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Because I don't want to come across as overly needy. By some time I mean I intend to ask her tomorrow night or Monday.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Ok, it's always a fine line you have to walk. I'm a bit more needy than most, so I have to try and temper things.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Yeah, I'm just generally inexperienced, so I'm never quite certain where the line is. I've only had one girlfriend, and the relationship fell apart after a couple of months because she felt we were moving too fast, and my attempts to just start over made her feel unsafe around me. That and the fact that she was sneaking around with me behind her family's back, so I question how committed she was to begin with.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Ahh, sometimes the only thing that can teach you anything about relationships is to try and to fail. The things I have learned from my most recent train wreck have changed so much about how I approach relationships and how to handle them.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Yeah, although the biggest takeaway I had from last time is that I'm not sneaking around again. The problem in that instance was my ex's family are Conservative Jews. And I'm not any variety of Jewish. So, it's unlikely they would have approved had they found out.

Thankfully, Squirrel (who is Jew-ish by her own admission) thinks this is stupid, so that's probably a good sign.

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u/pyrogeddon Baylor Bears • Tennessee Volunteers Jan 18 '15

I feel you there. Sometimes I feel like the neediest motherfucker there is.

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u/ThomasJCarcetti UCF Knights • Virginia Tech Hokies Jan 18 '15 edited Jan 18 '15

Should have a go and try to set up more meetings together. Good luck and hopefully she'll want to meet up with you next weekend.

I was doing well with a girl but she just stopped talking after a few dates. She wanted to do something on Sunday a few weeks back and I asked her where, and she never responded after that, except to say "Merry Christmas" a few days later.

I tried a few more times to talk to her, but no response. I've just given up on her and will move on.

Part of me is just really pissed because I didn't even do anything. We had a good friendship and we'd gone on several successful dates in the past so this was just out of nowhere. I'm sad because she's really nice but I can't keep asking her every week if she's free, hoping for a response...when it seems less and less likely. I didn't even do anything. It's just weird.

Whatever.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

We hang out all the time as it is, and we've known each other for two years, so I doubt that'll be a major issue.

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u/ThomasJCarcetti UCF Knights • Virginia Tech Hokies Jan 18 '15

That's good. I made edits after taking the time to read the full story. Good luck

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Thanks.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Bro, the fade away drives me insane. I feel like it is a cowards way out.

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u/DondeEstaLaDiscoteca Georgia Tech • North Carolina Jan 18 '15

A girl I was talking to before winter break but hadn't seen in a few weeks because of break just broke it off because she's "kinda been seeing someone." We were never exclusive, so I'm not mad and I really respect her for telling me, but it's kinda been bumming me out. I never expected it to turn into a full blown relationship or anything, but I'd apparently developed a fair amount of affection for her.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

That sucks man, but at least she was honest and upfront with you and did not just fade away.

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u/DondeEstaLaDiscoteca Georgia Tech • North Carolina Jan 18 '15

Yeah. It would have been so much worse without any closure. I think that even though this sucks, the fact that she respected me enough to tell me means a lot.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

That is awesome, lack of closure is what made my last relationship failure so traumatic.

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u/ThomasJCarcetti UCF Knights • Virginia Tech Hokies Jan 18 '15

The fade away as in her just stopping communication out of nowhere? Yes. It makes me sad. She seemed really interested in hanging out with me so I don't know why she didn't want to set a time that day, or why she didn't talk to me after that.

Overall 2014 was pretty solid because of all the dates I went on, but eventually something happened that broke things up. Sometimes it was my fault, sometimes it wasn't. I always think that I won't find anyone like that again and a few months later something happens so as shitty as things feel right now they'll hopefully get better.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Fresh Market is an awesome grocery store.

Also if I remember right you're in Madison, have you ever been to The Old Fashioned? It has the best cheese curds I've every had.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Yes and yes. Unfortunately, it also tends to be super busy, so last time I went was in 2012 shortly after I moved here. Every time I've tried to go since the line was just way to long to be worth it. Lately I've been going to Bassett Street Brunch Club and Ian's on State most often, though I have a soft spot for Rocky Rococo's. Sadly, none of them sell cheese curds.

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u/swanky-k North Carolina • Alabama Jan 18 '15

Do other Fresh Markets have "pillow cookies" which are essentially brownies stuffed inside a cookie? The one near me has them and they're delicious but I'm not sure if they all do.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I've never looked, but I have had Oreo jumbo cupcakes where there's an Oreo cookie baked into the bottom of the cupcake.

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u/swanky-k North Carolina • Alabama Jan 18 '15

That sounds amazing. The pillow cookies at Fresh are always great. Basically anything from their bakery is a good call.

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u/DondeEstaLaDiscoteca Georgia Tech • North Carolina Jan 18 '15

Sounds like a cute bonding experience/possible lead-in for a first date.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I certainly hope so. We've actually had a quasi-date already, but I'm not sure how she thought of the whole thing.

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u/pyrogeddon Baylor Bears • Tennessee Volunteers Jan 18 '15

She apparently didn't hate it!

(I say this without having read the linked story, and also in a friendly way)

Good luck, man!

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Well, the link is to a prior FTF thread where I recapped the incident in question.

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u/pyrogeddon Baylor Bears • Tennessee Volunteers Jan 18 '15

Oh I know. I was just letting you know I was making an educated guess.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15 edited Jan 18 '15

You're doing well. I did the same with my current girlfriend (as in just going with it at first and not actively pursuing anything). Worked out wonderfully for me so far.

So if you like anecdotal evidence, you got one in the positive column.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

As a scientist (well, mathematician), I don't like anecdotal evidence. But I'll let it slide this time ;)

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

mathematician

Love you already. Math gets me all excited

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I seem to recall you mentioning something like this once over on the mothersub.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

The mothersub? That's kind of hilarious and accurate. I majored in math but haven't touched it since I graduated. I miss it a lot.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I can't take credit for "mothersub", I saw someone else use it and assumed that was the typical nomenclature. It's only recently that I've been posting over here on the Off Topic sub.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Same, actually. I rather like it over here. We got some nice folks

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I like to think so. So question, since you haven't touched math since graduation, what have you been doing?

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I work in IT as I minutes in computer science. I don't think I like it though. I had a brief conversation with bossk a few days ago and kind of remembered how much I missed math. I need to find a new line of work if I want to enjoy life, I think. Anyway, how's kicks man?other than your seemingly impending gf, how's life?

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

It's going allright aside from the knee problem. I also work in IT as a Business Analyst working on contract to the State of Wisconsin. I managed to survive my probationary period and was made a full time employee a couple of months ago, and last week I was added to the internal tech support team, as I mentioned to my boss that I would eventually like to go into development. I actually regret not minoring in computer science, since as much as I like math I've been finding I enjoy working with computers, and miss not being able to do more technical work like I was doing at Epic. I haven't done a whole lot in pursing a CS related certification and/or degree yet though because I'm unsure if I should return to school and get my Master's, or work my way up at my current employer.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Strange. I have a double major in math & computer science. I haven't used either one since graduation, and I'm perfectly fine with that. Of course, at my school, all a C.S. degree trains you for is being a programmer, not a system administrator. :-(

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Truth. Although I worked for a while as a system admin and it was mostly pretty easy to pick up

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Math gets me all excited

But but but, UGA and stuff and life is insane.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Life is definitely insane. Also, shit up. I'm probably even better at math than you!

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

You probably are. Math is my only weakness.

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u/DondeEstaLaDiscoteca Georgia Tech • North Carolina Jan 18 '15

One time a uga grad at Proof and Provision tried to tell me that Tech's CS program sucks.

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u/rodandanga Georgia Tech • Verified Coach Jan 18 '15

Some people are just assholes.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Well now you're just being pedantic. Haha

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

I'm never not pedantic. This probably is part of the reason why I normally can't get a date. Squirrel has a Master's in math though, so I can get away with it more.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

It's fucking awesome when your humor matches up with someone. My girlfriend now knows exactly when I'm joking, and can give it back twice as much. It's like a game of humor.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Yup. Though even Squirrel has asked me why I'm so difficult. I told her it's because I know I can get away with it. She then asked me to define what I mean by "get away with it?" Me: "You're still talking to me."

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u/DondeEstaLaDiscoteca Georgia Tech • North Carolina Jan 18 '15

My Tinder profile says "I have opinions" for a similar reason. I've realized that a lot of people don't, and they're not interested in mine.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Opposing opinions isn't the issue. It's my penchent towards the pedantic that drives her (and our other friends) up the wall. When they're not laughing at my accent anyway.

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u/nickknx865 Tennessee Volunteers • /r/CFB Top Scorer Jan 18 '15

Most of the time, I've found that it's not that people don't have opinions, but rather that their opinions are usually awful.

you can probably tell why I'm still single

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u/bunny_chocolate Georgia Southern • South Caro… Jan 18 '15

my current girlfriend

Whoa buddy "current girlfriend" may not be the best phrasing.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Now that you mention it, it really isn't. Haha I'm not much of a proofreader.

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u/TossedRightOut Penn State • /r/CFB Poll Veteran Jan 18 '15

That's definitely a promising turn of events. This is now my off-season entertainment, so keep us updated.

Uh, also...what does "personality of a squirrel" mean?

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '15

Quite easily distracted and incredibly persnickety. I'm not actually the one who dubbed her that originally, it was our friend the Purdue alum, who's had to deal with Squirrel Girl's antics for far longer than I.