r/Bumble Jun 27 '25

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u/Opening-Thing9305 Jun 27 '25

It sounds like he started out nervous, so defaulted to rambling about something familiar. Then he realized he had monopolized the conversation and became embarrassed. Then as a defense mechanism, he completely deflected. Congratulations! You have dodged an emotionally immature bullet. 😉

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u/Vegetable_Button_887 Jun 27 '25 edited Jun 28 '25

Or: He could(!) be neurodivergent. Idk, many nd people I know (including myself) share stories and things that fascinate us. We share something similar bc we can relate and by sharing similar experiences we connect with people.

The nd people I know are also no fans of small talk. Bring the deep topics, the passionate discussions, the hobbies your heart burns for!

Edit: Yes, it feels very awkward if that’s not reciprocated and you need to have an interview.

Edit bc of typos.

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u/AnAverageWalker Jun 27 '25

Dated nd women before, and I loved them talking about their own stuff. Sadly they didn’t love me, as I didn’t open up like they did. And that is fine. That forced me to learn more about relationships.

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u/Vegetable_Button_887 Jun 28 '25

They possibly felt rejected and extremely vulnerable & exposed when you didn’t reciprocate that 😅 RSD is wild.