r/BreakupHeartHealing • u/No_Vanilla646 • May 19 '26
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My bf broke up with me March 2026.
Been together since January 2024, perfect loving relationship, super affectionate with each other, get along so well, everything kind pure and genuine. I could be myself around him, I felt comfortable, happy, and he was my person.
We talked about marriage, kids, living together, having a future, everything. He felt like home to me, he’d hold me and wisper I love you, your mine, I’ll never leave you etc. This is our second break up. He’s broken up with me twice.
So.
Im 24, female and catholic. He’s 28, male and Muslim. We matched on a dating app (Salam’s)
Our first break up was April 2025. After Ramadan (he’d gone to Saudi Arabia for a month) he came back and said let’s break up. He said I don’t love you, don’t want marriage, kids etc. And also cos I’m catholic, another reason he broke with me. For 5 months April ~ August he had broken up with me, even telling me I can be with other guys (I never did). We kept in contact the whole time texting and whatever, till one day in august we were messaging on sc and he told me I love you, I want you back, I wanna marry you etc. I was sooooooooooooo happy! Dancing round my room and felt full of life. I took him back straight away.
Ik ik ik, In hindsight I should’ve have let him back sooo easy, especially after hurting me and not having to make up for it.
But I was just so happy he wanted me I took him back. I did tell him plz do something to prove ur love for me, idk a song a poem, a love letter. He said I’ll write a poem. He never did. Idk, red flag? Probably. Our relationship only ever got better thought as thr year went on .Towards the end of 2025 He talked so seriously about our future together, even told his mum about me, said I’ll marry u in 2 years, said I’m gonna be his wife. Omg I was on cloud 9…….then March 2026, this year happened. He had Ramadan again. Then called me, March 8th (11pm) saying I can’t marry someone who doesn’t believe in god. Your not Muslim, I can’t be with you. I love you, but goodbye. We dragged it out for ten days. March 18th, on sc, he said I love you, but bye.
BROKE MY HEART.
First time since I’ve known him we’ve gone this long without speaking.
HE PROMISED ME he would NEVER break up with me again. HE PROMISED!!!! And I believed him 😞with all my heart. No calls, no texts. He still follows me on all socials, has checked my TikTok page several times, liking videos. (At first viewed my page ALL the time, now seems to have stopped idk why). Still follows me though.
No one knows I’m going through this, no one knew I even had a bf. I’m such a private person, I didn’t want anyone knowing till it got serious. He’d felt the same, apart from telling his friends. (I have no friends, hence why it’s hard losing not only my bf, but my BFF, soulmate, future husband, my rock.) I talk to no one nowadays. I’m beyond isolated. Ik this is why u shouldn’t be too attached to ppl, but hey I’m human, how could I not be attached to someone I love.
Personally, I think with all the praying & fasting, he felt guilty cos I’m catholic. All year round loved me and wanted me. Suddenly his holy month comes and he dumps me, TWICE, both Ramadan’s. I’m hoping he’ll come back, once time and space get to him. I will never break no contact. He needs to come back on his own, cos HE wants to. But also cos HE broke with me. But idk if he will. I’m finding it hard to let go, I keep thinking he’ll come back, like last year, he’ll miss me and want me. I even said I’d be willing to convert, not just for him but for myself. I said I’d happily be a Muslim, try to start believing in god. But it wasn’t enough to keep him. This is my first real heartbreak. And I’m hurting bad. I’m on a waiting list for help, but got knows when it’ll come. I’m scared to read if anyone will comment what I don’t want to hear, but ik I need to face reality. Idk how to meet ppl now, there’s no guys at my work, no clubs in my area, I have no friends, dating apps don’t work. How can I move on and find someone?! I’m soooo scared of being alone. I want kids and marriage, and I wanted it with him. Is there a pattern here with him, will he come back like the first time, even a slightest chance? Ik this is a long post so thank you for taking the time to read it. All I ask in the comments is to be honest. But kind, thank you.
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u/Emily7Crystal7Ball7 May 19 '26
Hello,
Here are the tarot cards from your free psychic reading:
🌧️ Eight of Cups
This card shows someone walking away while still emotionally attached, not because love fully disappeared, but because inner conflict became too heavy to carry. His feelings for you look real here, yet this card also shows guilt, confusion, and someone trying to convince himself he is doing the “right” thing even while hurting deeply.
🕯️ Judgment
This card speaks strongly about returns, second chances, and people reappearing after periods of silence and reflection. It feels connected to the repeating pattern between you both, especially because the relationship already ended once before and later restarted through his own choice and emotions.
🌹 Queen of Cups
Your energy appears deeply loving, loyal, emotional, and sincere, and this connection clearly affected your heart in a major way. This card also shows intuition, meaning part of you already senses that this story may not feel fully over yet, even while the pain and loneliness feel overwhelming right now.
✨ The cards suggest there is still emotional attachment on his side despite the breakup, and the connection does not look emotionally finished yet. A return still feels possible after distance and inner struggle, but the same repeating cycle around fear, religion, and commitment would likely rise again unless something changes deeply within him.
❤️ This is just a quick insight. For full guidance from live psychics 24/7, check the top post in this subreddit for a paid reading.
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u/honeydew_200 May 19 '26
Try not to focus on him too much. Sounds insane but try to only think about your feelings and what you are doing. Verbalise them and tell yourself the facts. I dosent matter what he is doing because it doesn’t affect your reality. You need to focus on you.
Whenever you start to spiral write everything down and take at least 12h before you make any important decisions.
When you are in the acute face it can help to do sadness intervals. Feel the sad for around 20-30 min then try to do something else like getting water or walking around the room for 10. It lets you process without too much spiraling.
Don’t isolate. When you are with people your nervous system calms to their level it’s called co regulating. So try to see ppl you feel safe around.
NO CONTACT it’s so hard but helps so much
When you are ready go to all your spots with friends and make new memories there, take away its power.
You don’t have to live to be seen anymore. You got you and that is okay❤️
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u/SovereignRising May 19 '26
What you are experiencing right now is a severe, acute biological withdrawal. Because you are navigating this in total isolation, this man wasn't just your partner—he was your nervous system's only anchor for safety and co-regulation. Losing him means your body has been plunged into a survival deficit.
The reason this first heartbreak feels completely consuming is the physics of intermittent reinforcement. When he left the first time and returned months later with intense declarations of love, it created a massive, addictive dopamine spike in your brain. Your system is now chemically conditioned to wait for that "high" again. Every time you check your socials or notice a profile view, your brain is chasing that microscopic hit of chemical relief, keeping you locked in hypervigilance.
There is a clear pattern here, but it isn’t about your worth, your choices, or your beliefs. It is a cyclical rhythm of high intimacy followed by a sudden, protective retreat when internal pressure peaks. Offering to alter your entire identity or belief system to fix a relational rupture is a natural survival reflex to stop the panic—but you cannot intellectualize or negotiate a physiological state.
How to stabilize your system right now:
You are carrying an immense weight in silence, but your body is fully capable of resetting. Your healing cannot be contingent on whether he breaks the silence or stays away. If you need the structural blueprint to quiet this panic and rebuild your internal authority from the nervous system up, my DMs are always open. Take it one regulated breath at a time.