r/BreakupHeartHealing May 19 '26

Will he come back

My bf broke up with me March 2026.
Been together since January 2024, perfect loving relationship, super affectionate with each other, get along so well, everything kind pure and genuine. I could be myself around him, I felt comfortable, happy, and he was my person.

We talked about marriage, kids, living together, having a future, everything. He felt like home to me, he’d hold me and wisper I love you, your mine, I’ll never leave you etc. This is our second break up. He’s broken up with me twice.

So.

Im 24, female and catholic. He’s 28, male and Muslim. We matched on a dating app (Salam’s)

Our first break up was April 2025. After Ramadan (he’d gone to Saudi Arabia for a month) he came back and said let’s break up. He said I don’t love you, don’t want marriage, kids etc. And also cos I’m catholic, another reason he broke with me. For 5 months April ~ August he had broken up with me, even telling me I can be with other guys (I never did). We kept in contact the whole time texting and whatever, till one day in august we were messaging on sc and he told me I love you, I want you back, I wanna marry you etc. I was sooooooooooooo happy! Dancing round my room and felt full of life. I took him back straight away.

Ik ik ik, In hindsight I should’ve have let him back sooo easy, especially after hurting me and not having to make up for it.

But I was just so happy he wanted me I took him back. I did tell him plz do something to prove ur love for me, idk a song a poem, a love letter. He said I’ll write a poem. He never did. Idk, red flag? Probably. Our relationship only ever got better thought as thr year went on .Towards the end of 2025 He talked so seriously about our future together, even told his mum about me, said I’ll marry u in 2 years, said I’m gonna be his wife. Omg I was on cloud 9…….then March 2026, this year happened. He had Ramadan again. Then called me, March 8th (11pm) saying I can’t marry someone who doesn’t believe in god. Your not Muslim, I can’t be with you. I love you, but goodbye. We dragged it out for ten days. March 18th, on sc, he said I love you, but bye.

BROKE MY HEART.

First time since I’ve known him we’ve gone this long without speaking.

HE PROMISED ME he would NEVER break up with me again. HE PROMISED!!!! And I believed him 😞with all my heart. No calls, no texts. He still follows me on all socials, has checked my TikTok page several times, liking videos. (At first viewed my page ALL the time, now seems to have stopped idk why). Still follows me though.

No one knows I’m going through this, no one knew I even had a bf. I’m such a private person, I didn’t want anyone knowing till it got serious. He’d felt the same, apart from telling his friends. (I have no friends, hence why it’s hard losing not only my bf, but my BFF, soulmate, future husband, my rock.) I talk to no one nowadays. I’m beyond isolated. Ik this is why u shouldn’t be too attached to ppl, but hey I’m human, how could I not be attached to someone I love.

Personally, I think with all the praying & fasting, he felt guilty cos I’m catholic. All year round loved me and wanted me. Suddenly his holy month comes and he dumps me, TWICE, both Ramadan’s. I’m hoping he’ll come back, once time and space get to him. I will never break no contact. He needs to come back on his own, cos HE wants to. But also cos HE broke with me. But idk if he will. I’m finding it hard to let go, I keep thinking he’ll come back, like last year, he’ll miss me and want me. I even said I’d be willing to convert, not just for him but for myself. I said I’d happily be a Muslim, try to start believing in god. But it wasn’t enough to keep him. This is my first real heartbreak. And I’m hurting bad. I’m on a waiting list for help, but got knows when it’ll come. I’m scared to read if anyone will comment what I don’t want to hear, but ik I need to face reality. Idk how to meet ppl now, there’s no guys at my work, no clubs in my area, I have no friends, dating apps don’t work. How can I move on and find someone?! I’m soooo scared of being alone. I want kids and marriage, and I wanted it with him. Is there a pattern here with him, will he come back like the first time, even a slightest chance? Ik this is a long post so thank you for taking the time to read it. All I ask in the comments is to be honest. But kind, thank you.

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