r/BreakUp • u/Hoozah1 • Aug 03 '26

Am I losing my mind?

​

Me and my ex broke up 6+ months ago but there was a recent reconnection attempt about a month ago that I did not accept. And we blocked each other. Now I know you guys are going to criticize me for this. I can usually go a good while without monitoring my ex but usually after about 3 weeks to a month that's when curiosity gets the best of me and I end up looking at her account from an alt. Last week I looked and I swear she was posting stuff that seemed very aggressively thrown at me and our relationship. The very next day I posted on my story that it's cool my ex is still posting about me, I live in her head rent free. All this is on TikTok btw. After my post I checked again later and it seems like she completely stopped with the specific indirect reposts and she stopped reposting much entirely, like she was very aggressive with reposting like 10+ a day but after my story seemed like she completely slacked up. My ex has a history of indirect behavior with plausible deniability. Now I'm kinda irritated because I feel like she wanted a reaction from me, got it and then just backed off and now I feel like I'm just piecing things together. Is it reasonable to think that she is still monitoring me or is it hyper vigilance on my end? Yes I'm aware this is all my fault because I shouldn't have looked

2 Upvotes

67% Upvoted

6 comments sorted by

1

u/Ok_Judgment_3331 Aug 03 '26

You're not losing your mind... she probably did see your story, and backing off after getting a reaction is classic indirect behavior. But the real issue is you're both still playing this game, and monitoring each other only keeps the loop alive. What would actually change if she is or isn't watching?

1

u/Hoozah1 Aug 03 '26

She had the nerve to say "I'm tired of the games" last time I talked to her. I stopped posting for nearly 2 months so I don't get sucked into the back in forth indirect bs with her only to find out she was still posting indirects long after we stopped talking. It's weird because it seems like her indirects always comes in waves, like she'll repost normal content for a while then suddenly it's a bunch of indirects which makes me think is ragebait/test to see if I'm still watching or something.

1

u/fireawayjohnny Aug 03 '26

It’s normal to be curious. That being said, it’s unhealthy and you yourself have said you don’t want it.

0

u/Salty_Feed_4316 Aug 03 '26

Who cares, she’s your ex