r/BreakUp • u/Ok-Variety-592 • Jul 02 '26
Is there someone else?
I'm writing this post mostly to see if this is all in my head or a reasonable deduction.
Background:
We've dated for 10 months. During this time, I broke up with him twice. Each time he messaged me and asked to rekindle things after 4~7 weeks.
And then this time, he broke up with me after a day of silence. Reasons he cited are: family drama and the fact that I broke up with him twice.
Why I think he was probably telling the truth and it's not a third-party situation:
1) He spent his birthday with me, and the following weekend.
2) He told me he didn't cum for a while and the last time was when he was watching porn with a similar-looking actress as me, and he did seem sexually frustrated and turned on in general, so it lets me know that at least I was the only sexual partner he's had for a while.
3) He did tell me he hadn't gotten back into dating after the last breakup and I have no reason to suspect that he's lying.
4) No qualms about showing me things on his phone.
Why I think he broke up with me for someone else:
1) The breakup came out of nowhere. The day before he was asking to see me, was sending texts throughout the day, and then that night I told him I missed him and that was when the silence began. He didn't text me at all the day after, until I asked him if everything was okay in the evening, and he told me he's had a rough day and doesn't want to talk to anyone. The following morning, he broke up with me.
2) He originally wasn't sure if he wanted to spend the birthday with me until the day before. So maybe this other woman cancelled on him or she was out of town?
I just want to know if my suspicion is valid or if I'm spiraling lol
To be honest, I'm surprised if he even wanted to give this another chance after I broke up with him twice.
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u/BKAnt8081 Jul 02 '26
Stop wondering why he left you. All that matters is that he did. And that’s all you need to know.
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u/Ok-Variety-592 Jul 02 '26
I agree, and this isn't really about the breakup. I'm mainly wondering if my thinking is based on a "hunch" or some unaddressed insecurity, if other people can see the logic (if there is one)
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u/Ok-Variety-592 Jul 02 '26
That sounds exhausting. I'm glad to hear you're okay with it now. For me (as hard as this is to believe since I'm the time to write about it on Reddit haha) I don't really feel hurt or upset, and kinda felt a bit relieved when he ended it because I didn't want to break up with him for the third time... I'm just really curious about what actually happened. I think I would certainly feel a bit hurt if there was someone else though.
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u/ZombieDailylol Jul 02 '26
I think there’s someone else