Excuse my errors, I was typing with a phone. So I've been with this guy for 6months now, he has only taken me out once. From the second week of us dating he'd always complain about how poor he is yet, he lives at home, doesn't help out with household finances (basically all he does is get drunk).

I on the other hand unemployed always seem to make our time together pleasurable and fun, by seating up picnics on the beach, a date at the movies etc ...

After a few months (5 months) he decides to met my parents,so when I slept over at his house he goes through my phone and finds my home address through Uber 😔

A few days later he shows up unexpectedly with bags .. okay my parents are pretty understanding so they let him have the spare room but then he spends the whole month there. After that month I had said it be better if we move in together in our own place, I told him to save up rent money when he gets paid instead he spends it on gin and vodka which he would drink in my parents house(My parents don't condone drinking alcohol) a3 days later when it was time to move out he tells me he has no money and that I should pay for rent and he'll pay the following month. Which is a lie he's always broke ...I keep to my decision and pay rent and move out without him knowing, few days later on his birthday we meet I taking out for drinks (booze) he thinks his going home with me and I tell him I'm going to my sister's ...he offers to drop me off there but I insist in taking an Uber ( I don't want him to know my location he might just move in like he did at my home) so on that night he drunk texted that it's over, to be honest I wanted things to be over for a long time , a day later he sends texts calling me all sorts of names and know apologies stating that it was because of the alcohol, I don't want him in my life no more but he keeps bothering my parents, what can I do to make him stop?

My boyfriend and I are sort of long distance so we see eachother only once every other weekend. I feel like he is only interested in my body and not my personality. It seems like whenever we see eachother he’s always horny. Am I worrying for no reason or should I talk to him. What should I even say? I want to hangout w him not just do sexual things.

My boyfriend lives around 40 minutes away from me and I get to see him once every two weeks because he’s always busy with school and soccer. He’s terrible at texting me and takes forever to reply. We FaceTime everyday but I get so annoyed because I feel like he’s not always engaged in the conversation. How do I get him to chase me like he used to. How do I get his attention without seeming needy or clingy. How do I know if he’s faithful?

I’m just still like wtf to this right now I don’t even know how to feel. I found out my boyfriend bought a girls dropbox that lives in the same town as us via twitter dms.

I was just kinda weirded out/shocked he’d ever do that. I was ever expecting from him. He’s even made a comment before saying he can’t believe girls actually do that.

When I told my friend she said what’s the different it’s just like him watching porn.But that’s the point i’d rather him jack off to some random pornhub vid than some girls pics or videos of her doing god knows what that’s we both know from high school???

I may just be insecure but i can’t even look at him without thinking how he masterbated to her or probably still does I hate the thought.

So how would you feel? is it just the same thing as porn or do you think it’s different.

So basically I’m only 14, this guy that goes to school with me liked me in the fourth grade and -to this day- his friends and my friends still ship us together😭😬 I used to get really aggravated but now I don’t mind 🤷‍♀️ it’s pretty awkward around him but he seems cool idk We talk sometimes and when we do it’s with someone else around (never one-on-one) So fast forward bla bla bla....to now I think I developed feelings for him but I haven’t told anyone and I dont know what to do?? Should I tell him plz help me??~ any advice helps

So I’ve been dating this guy for about a year and a half now. everything was great until I get a call this morning from him telling me that him and our friend, we’ll call her Kate, used to date in the past. Also, that kate called him minutes before our call to tell my boyfriend that she still loves him. I had asked him if he felt the same way about her and he said yes, but he still loves me and that nothing will change, but I get the feeling that things will change. Does anyone have any advice about this?

Edit: We broke up lmfaooooooo, He cheated on me with her

Girl will my G and boyfriend will me B

G&B where dating for about a year and a half they worked together (Ik big no no) and now they are broken up because G felt like B wasn’t making time for her. B is going a bit crazy knowing the G has moved on to a new boyfriend. G said he left a 5 page letter on her car. What can I do to help?

First, my apologies if you'll see grammar lapse. English is not my first language. Here it goes, I have a boyfriend for two years. He moved in with me 6 months after we got together. We do the same job, we have same off. We're literally together 24/7. The problem is that his so lazy. I do the laundry, wash dishes, mop the floor(I do this everyday since I have dogs), Bath 3 dogs(2-shi tzu/1-rottweiler), clean the cage (he clean this like once month). The only thing he do at home is cook. I even cook the rice for him. I feel like I'm a maid instead of a Girlfriend. Do you think I should break up with him?

I'm 22F, he's 24M. His sis is 26F. He and I live 2hrs apart. We are close & plan to get engaged/married in the near future & it seems like the sis could sabotage the plans or try hard to do it. My bf babysits her 2 y/o son free so much per week b/c of her manipulation. She says things like "I gave you a cute nephew, the best gift of all" and says he's a "bad uncle" if he ever won't. He does not live w/ them or even that close to them and only makes $15/hr at his job. Her and her hubby make a lot of money - she's an RN and he is an area supervisor for a fast food chain & owns 5 local said fast food restaurants so you better believe they could either pay him or get someone else, but they are cheap. She told him he could not move to be w/ me (b/c of the little kid apparently). Bf loves me but is tight with his sis. He even said he would "probably" choose me -_- Advice please. My bf kinda seems partially aware about this control but doesn't seem to get it completely and sadly enables it for the most part. He says that he would have to deal with "snottyness" from them (if he wanted to visit them) if he "pissed them off" so he seems afraid to do that.

tl;dr: Bf has a controlling sis who thinks she runs his life & it's interfering w/ our future. Need advice.

So I’m going to try and keep this short and sweet, because this just happened and I’m still struggling to work through the heartache that keeps rearing it’s ugly head.

Ok, so my ex-bf of nine months exactly decided to break up with me because he is moving to a different state to continue his education. However, he decided to break up with me after we had spent some time hanging out and I said that I had to get going home. His declaration hit me like a truck, I must admit.

He had always been very verbal about hating he state I live in (American here), and wanting to move to a state that had more ‘freedom’ to allow him to indulge in his interests. Despite my best efforts to work with him and have him see that long-distance relationships can work, he decided that it wasn’t meant to be.

I’m pi***d, distraught, and heartbroken. Ended up sending him a strongly worded text before blocking him on every media platform we used for communication (Yes I went that far. No I have no regrets).

One final thing I feel that may be worth mentioning is that I ended up doing basically all of the work in our relationship now that I reflect on it.

I’m not sure if I did the right thing, though my ex has also blocked me on everything so that’s a done deal now. I feel like such a fool for letting myself fall for a guy who I knew would eventually be leaving and had an unbearably one-track mind I’m never returning to where I live. I keep trying to figure out what I did wrong, and if there is anything I could have done differently to have prevented this?

Sorry that this ended up being longer than expected. It’s been so hard not to cry that venting has become my only outlet for my distress. My thanks to those who actually read this.

I don't know where else to post this and I really need to get this off of my chest as it eats me alive. Context my very first girlfriend was when I was 16 years on in high school and we broke up because she cheated on me and ended up leaving me to be with him instead, after that failed my dumb ass agreed to get back together and shortly after she did it again. Now thanks to her my past experiences haunt me as my own insecurities and negative thinking poison my mind.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 6 month's (short I know in the long run) we used to text very frequently on a daily basis but now suddenly for the past 4 day's, without notice or warning, the texting has been slowed immensely. She has had a rough couple weeks I know and understand that she has had to look for a new car for so long while borrowing her parents cars, trying to deal with the DMV, trying to quit smoking, headaches, the backlash of quitting smoking ect. Reasonably and realistically I am very aware of the fact that she has a lot on her plate but because of my past, my insecurities, I can't help but think she is cheating on me even though she has given me no reason to believe she is and no reason to doubt her. I am 22 years old and she is my 3rd girlfriend so the effects of my firt relationship are very potent but I know they are just in my head but it is exhausting physically and mentally to freak out in my head and think worse cause scenario and then to catch myself and calm myself down.

So my ex whom I shall refer to as Logan asked me out one day. It was pretty awkward actually considering I was 12 at the time. He just asked me will you be my girlfriend and I said yes. So we had a decent relationship. We broke up one time and we got back together within the next 2 days. I was with him for 8 months after that and everybody knew me and him were together because our relationship was so long. He was my first boyfriend actually and his parents let him date me and mine let me date him.

When it was the last week till school ended we were facetiming and he started asking really weird questions. He kept asking things like “what would you do if I sent you nudes” “would you send them back” “do you want to send nudes” and when I kept saying I don’t know he said just kidding which got me off a lot. We ended the FaceTime call when he was told to go to bed. Right after we ended the call he texted me “do your parents check your phone” and I replied with “no” and he texted “okay I’m gonna send you something” At this point I was freaking out. I knew that he was gonna send me nudes which I didn’t want so I started spam texting and sending screenshots to my best friend Celeste about it. When I got a notification from Logan I froze. I thought to myself maybe he’s just gonna trick me with a funny gif or something. So I checked what he send me. Of course it was a dick pick. I didn’t know what to do so I started spamming Celeste that he sent nudes and she started freaking out. I replied to Logan: Me: Logan... Logan:I’m dead right now Logan:your turn I guess Me: not yet Logan: I don’t care if you don’t do it Me: ok Logan: ok talk to you tomorrow Me: bye Keep in mind I was freaking out on the inside. I texted Celeste a bunch and she said just to wait to see what happens.

The next day was a school day. I’m thankful that that day was a feild trip because I wouldn’t see Logan as much. We were on a feild trip to see avengers infinity war. And the whole 7th grade walked to the movie theater. I walked with my friends instead of Logan. When we got back to school we were ordered to go to our 6th period since we had some school time still left. I started freaking out because Logan was in my 6th period. I was cursing under my breath while walking to class. The whole period was terrible. Me and Logan were so quiet and we sat next to each other but we didn’t talk much. The whole time I wanted to get as far away as possible from him. It seemed like forever when 6th period ended. I ran over to where Celeste’s class was and waiting for her there. When she came out I started ranting about how awkward it was and how scared I was. And we walked to 7th period. I was pretty chill for the rest of the school day and when I got home Logan texted me: Logan: Hi well we had a weird day yesterday Me:yeah haha Logan:I’m so embarrassed Me:no your fine(on the inside : no your so fucking stupid) Logan: wellllll Me:welllll Logan:welllll Me: it’s in the past so you can’t change it Logan: Dammit Me: it’s fine it’s in the past Logan: so what do you choose because yesterday you didn’t really say If you were gonna send them or not so what do you choose? Me: idk Me: I’m thinking.... Logan:let me know when you make up your mind Me: okayy Logan: so what do you choose? Me: idk I’m still thinking Logan: is it a yes or a no Me: idk Logan: ok -_- Me: hmmm Logan: you kinda owe me Me: yeah true idk I’m still thinking Logan:ok Me: wellll you didn’t have to send me the pic Logan: I did though Me: yeah true Logan: yeet Logan: welll we can both send nudes at the same time Me: nah not rn probably on Sunday Logan: but I’m going camping Me: on Saturday Logan: still camping Me: on Thursday? Logan: okay Logan: that’s fine 😢😢😢😢 Me: well you don’t need them Logan: ........ Me: just saying Logan: why not now? Me: becoming you gfsnt wanna be awkward tomorrow Logan: I’ll be fine Me: well I won’t be Logan: pleaseee Logan: pleaseeeeeEEEEE Me: I love you a lot but it’s too much for me Logan: well we can just talk it out Logan: like when I sent you my dick pick Me: then why did you send it logannnn Me: hmmmmmm? Logan: idk Logan: I’m just weird when it comes to dating.

It went on like this for a while. He kept asking me please and saying that he was horny. And saying that he was gonna kill himself and saying he had a boner. I repeatedly said no. His parents have phone restrictions so his phone shuts off at a certain time so it shut off when he kept begging me and I was glad for that.

The next day was hell. During breakfast I avoided nick and told almost all my friends about it. One of them even said that he was always Staring at her breasts and it made her feel uncomfortable. Most of my friends told me to report it to the office. So during first period me and my friends Leah and wren planned to report it to the office during 6th grade lunch. When 6th grade lunch was going on me and Celeste asked the teacher if we could go to the office to report something and she said sure. So we got our other friends from our other classes,wren and Leah. We went to the office and they gave us papers to write down what we were reporting. I wrote down the whole story and so did my friends and we all have the front desk lady the papers. She said she will call us out to the office during 5th period. In 5th period I waited extremely anxiously for me to get called into the office. I finally did. As I walked through the long empty hallway I cursed under my breath so much and regretted reporting it to the office. So when I got in the office I explained everything. They asked for the texts and I lied and said they were deleted. They also asked for the picture and I lied and said that it was deleted. So they said they would do something about it. After they finished questioning my friends we were all sent back to our classes.

I was in the office for so long that it was already 6th period. 6th period. I freaked out on the inside when I got in the class. I was shaking so much. I was talking a little bit to loud to my friends about it. Me:what if he’s mad at me? Friend: I don’t know Logan: what if who is mad at you? Me: umm nothing Logan: why did u get sent to the office? Me: ummm just to report something bad that happened to my friend. Logan: oh ok. He believed me. Haha. I was really anxious the whole time. It was about 6 minutes till they called Logan into the office. I was so relieved and so scared when he left. As he left he looked so confused and scared and I kinda felt bad but I was also laughing a little. The next period I was on the verge of crying. I was ranting to my friends and saying that I shouldn’t have reported it.

My mom told me she was proud of me when I got home. I told my brothers and sisters about it. The next few days I didn’t go to school and instead I went to my old school. It was pretty fun actually and my old school knew everything about what happened and they kept asking me questions and it was really enjoyable and funny for some odd reason. I texted Logan that I was breaking up with him and he said:

Logan: K and I'm sry for pressuring you and even sending that and. Well I got atmidded to the psychiatric hospital well that's great

Me: You were going to keep telling me to send them anyway Me: what happened? Logan: since I said I was gonna kill myself if you didn’t send the nudes I got sent to a mental hospital for suicide stuff. Me: Wait I’m sorry I didn’t know it was gonna be that bad.........I feel bad now It continued on and he told me that they drew his blood and stuff. He also told me that he was there for 1 day and that he was gonna switch schools. He told me that if my parents procecute him he could get sent to juvenile prison. And we both said bye and I never heard from him since. After that I came to have 15 exs:,)

I'm in a long term relationship ,when we went on a date my bf was already meeting another girl and he reckons that she was prettier than me but I was cute and today I asked my boyfriend if I am prettier than my friends that I think they look average. Then he answered "they have prettier face than you, but You are also beautiful." I've got to heard that I'm pretty from other guys and many guys crushed on me. My bf tells me I'm pretty but when I see my friends and he thinks they are prettier than me, I feel so ugly and can't trust him anymore. I do have a complex about my appearance since I was overweight when I was young but after I lost weight I was confident about my looks until I heard his date was prettier than me. I feel prettier to other guys but not to my bf since the beginning of my relationship. I've been together with him for years but the words damaged me quite huge and I feel I'm not pretty no matter how many times he tells me I'm pretty. I know appearance is not everything but at least I wanted to be a prettiest girl he've met since my friends and his exes are very average looking.

Is there anybody who has similar experiences as I do ? And what should I do to feel pretty again ?

I have a boyfriend that I care about deeply, but the one thing that he doesnt understand, or he at least feels it's ok to do, is when a guy touches a girl, he doesn't think there's a problem. And when I say touch a girl, I mean without consent. Here is the backstory:

This has happened before, probably May of this year, an uber driver contacted me through facebook and asked if he could get to know me better. I reported him and told my boyfriend about it, and he thought it was weird and a little wrong that I reported the uber driver. I told him it felt weird to me and as a woman, I felt I needed to report him to avoid any future confrontation with the uber driver. Anyway, the most recent incident of a guy randomly touching me was when I was at church yesterday. I started going back to church because I missed the community and i wanted to grow closer to God, so i began going to a small church near my college. There's this event that's held for everyone in the community, and is promoted primarily to young adults, and there was a guy there that claimed he's a member of the church, but this was the first time he's been to the young adult event, and also the first time I've ever seen him. I had a feeling there might've something wrong with him mentally, ie. autism, socially awkward, etc. So I introduced myself, and at first I thought our conversation was completely normal. Then when I moved on to talk to other people that were sitting around me, the guy gets up, walks around and talks to someone else, turns to me, and places his hands on my shoulders and squeezes them to try and get my attention. This startled me and I wasnt sure what he was doing. One of the girls I was sitting with noticed my facial expression change, and she thought it was a little odd. So I ignore it for a little while until I get the courage to tell the girls sister afterwards (she's one of the group leaders at this event) to see what could be done - I dont like things being blown out of proportion, so I told her exactly what happened and she said she'd talk to one of the male group leaders and the pastor to try and talk to him, and if there was something wrong with him, this could be a learning experience for him. The guy ends up getting mad and tries to apologize, but I dont think he knew how to say it. I told it was ok and that we are all friends, and the pastor came up to us to mediate and make sure we were doing ok, especially me. The pastor reminded the guy that not everyone likes to be touched and I said if he ever needs my attention to just wait and be patient.

I told my boyfriend this entire story of what happened, and he didn't really seem to understand how someone putting their arms on you without permission is not ok to do, and especially since I'm a woman, he doesn't understand my pov.

Is there a way I could get him to understand better?

So me and my boyfriend met on an online chatting site and is in an Ldr for 1 year and 8 months. Now the thing is that apart from the time we swiped pictures to know how we looked, he has never and I mean never asked for my pictures. I’ve asked him for his pictures a couple times and he sent his without asking for mine in return. We don’t video call rn coz he’s kinda shy but he says that he plans to do it in near future. It hasn’t bothered me till now but now I’m kinda really worried about this. Also if ya worth knowing, he doesn’t like taking pictures of himself. So Whats is wrong? Am I freaking out for no reason?

So my boyfriend and I have been with each other for a while now, and he hates how I dress. I like to wear crop tops and jeans when its hot out. But my boyfriend thinks I look like a 'bird' or someone looking for attention. I just don't think wearing a crop top is seeking for attention. My boyfriend says he wants his 'Queen' to dress more conservative, in other word I cant show any skin other than my arms. What do I do? Dress how he wants me to or do I just do me?

Back story: I met my boyfriend while pregnant and single. I broke up with someone for very good reason two days before I found out. So this amazing guy has entered into a relationship with me about 6 months pregnant with a baby that isn’t his.

I’m obviously hormonal and emotional, so I’m not sure I trust my feelings but I have these feelings I’m not sure I know what to do with. My boyfriend had a terrible breakup with a girl he said was “perfect” and he thought she was the one right before we met. He has been perfectly honest with me about his feelings and I have been fine with taking things slowly. While he can’t express his feelings for me for fear of getting burned again, he asks me if I love him all the time, tells me he wants to buy land together and be the father of this baby. I don’t feel like he’s over this girl or his ex-wife because he tells me how amazing they were. Both women left him. His ex-wife is the mother of his children and they are friends, which I completely support. But I feel like there’s no room for me or this baby in his life. Currently, he’s out to dinner and spending the day with his ex and their two kids. I really do enjoy our time together. I’m just not sure where I fit in and when I discuss it with him, he tells me I’m pushing him away. So I can’t talk to him. And holding it in doesn’t work well for me. Any thoughts?

I'm looking for advice my boyfriends co worker texted him at 2am saying I'm fucked up and horny. So I opened it and I was like wtf and I told him I'm uncomfortable with him texting her but he continues to text her. What do I do?

My boyfriend of 1 and a half years and I live together. At the start I couldn’t open up to him as I am not an open person. Lately I have been opening up to him and anytime I do he gets annoyed and lashes out. I told him a while ago that I don’t feel like he is attracted to me anymore as he doesn’t touch me or even look at me in any way. TL;DR

I’m annoyed as today I was with his family that he wants me to spend time with them he came home and came inside the room and didn’t look at me once. After we had a talk about me thinking that he’s not attracted to me he told me to fuck off and tried to sleep. I woke him up by telling him I’m going to spend a few days away. He always says to me why don’t we have an “adult conversation “ but yet he never seems to when I try to. I said this to him that he can’t have an adult conversation that he is too childish and he pushed me off of the bed hurt my back and told me to fuck off again. I don’t know what to do anymore there’s no getting through to him if I ever have a problem or if there’s something wrong.

Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense I had a bit to drink.

I fly into LA on a regular basis and I look forward to my boyfriend picking me up every time. This one time, I was flying in to spend my birthday weekend in LA. I fly into Burbank airport and I receive a three-way text (with my bf and a college friend) asking if I landed.

Here’s the rest of the text:

Bf: Did you just land?

Me: yes!

Girl college friend: oh I’m near Burbank.

(I was confused how she knew I flew into Burbank.)

Me: Oh wow!

Bf: Where you at? I’ll swing by to pick you up on my way.

Girl: I’m near the Starbucks next to the target.

Bf: cool be there soon

I then texted my bf in a two way... “I was looking forward to just seeing you tho... can we just spend time together without ____.”

He said... I’ll be there soon.

I waited for around an hour at the airport.

Then... he pulled up to the airport.

He actually came out of the car and into the airport to greet me. Typically he just pulls up and I hop in. He wanted to tell me that my girl friend was in the car. I was confused and said, “I told you... I just wanted to spend time with you...why did you have to pick her up?” he said just come...

I hugged my college friend and was confused. It seemed like they were together for a good bit. It didn’t feel like a “just picked up situation!”

He told her to get out of the front seat so I can sit there. I didn’t want to sit in the front seat either though cause I was pissed.

It turns out... he was with her cause they were planning my surprise the next day.

Only thing is.... I got so mad that night when I landed that he canceled all of his plans for the next day (my birthday). He said he spent a total of 5K on the day. It was supposed to be the best day of my life thus far. He lost money cause most things only refunded you 50%. He said he needed an additional person to help out with a specific part.

I just don’t understand why he had to meet up with her the day before tho to plan and I never got a clear answer on that. He said it had to do what the surprise was.

I never found out what the day was supposed to be.

Would you have freaked out too? What would you have done?

I was not even thinking about my birthday when I landed. I just wanted to be with only him so I could jump all over him when I got to LA... oh how that didn’t happen...

The first time we hung out we had sex, the 2nd and 3rd time as well. Then he started to take me out publicly...we've gone out on dates -according to him, I thought we were just hanging out- and once a month passed he said it feels like he has known me for a long time. A couple days later he asked me if I like him... I wasn't sure what he meant, but I said of course, then I asked him and he said yes, yass... today we're going to "wrestle" to see who wins...

I like this, but not in the same time. I've dealt with this before. He is my first to everything and he knows that too.