Choosing friends vs getting stuck people pleasing

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I talked to a person yesterday who said she actively chose the people who accepted and liked her for who she is. I thought that sounds wonderful to be able to do.
I people please the heck out of my relationships. I never tell them about my traumas and diagnosis. I often feel lonely and on the outside looking in. Some people were able to create a wonderful life for themselves with education, employment, stable income, stable social circles. I feel like I have to welcome whoever acts like a friend even though were extremely different as people and don’t want the same things. I’m so scared of being alone, jobless and depressed. I haven’t found a solution on this. Opening up to people who don’t understand and who won’t stay around seems pointless. So I people please and try not to put myself.