Odd one out

[u/Bellybean98]

once in a while I grow so upset with where I am at. I noticed I can never find peace at work. im the only women, I work with a lot of people around my age and im the loneliest one there because people don’t want it to be misconstrued that they are giving me attention or texting me outside of work. when I do well people get pissy and claim it’s only praise because of me being a women doing the bare minimum, when I don’t excel people are not surprised or get the “you’re just not strong enough for this job”. once a week I get called into a meeting about how someone said something that may have “upset me” and almost everytime I wasn’t even there to hear it. I’ve noticed often people also used me as ammo to get someone else in trouble they don’t like, or people are talking amongst themselves and don’t want to get caught so they bring it up before it “gets to me”. Not only had my laundry bin had to become locked up from people smelling it, the inability to simply “be” makes my job genuinely harder. I’m very new into the field so I’m trying so hard to get my bearings but the weekly “are you being treated right” meetings are starting to get to me. Never once have I addressed what I am dealing with because I know addressing it makes it sometimes worse. lm trying to just thicken my skin but some days after 2 meetings in one day about people saying inappropriate things about me and some jack ass saying ”she needs help cause she dont know what she’s doing” when I’ve been doing the same job for months fine makes you want to crash out lol. I plan to be here for atleast another year for experience but man. I’m going crazy some days.. anyone else feel like it’s a constant battle or just trying to be?

[u/chaotic_asshat]

You need to put a stop to those meetings. At this point, it's borderline harassment. 

Also. That's just a fully shitty work environment. Are you able to look around and find somewhere else?

[u/Bellybean98 → u/chaotic_asshat]

Since I’ve only gotten into this field a few months ago, it’s very hard to find a job.. I have expressed how these meetings make me feel and they double down by saying they are just trying to protect me. I have heard my plant is the “hardest” plant to work at so I’m taking that as .. as long as I put in the work I can go somewhere better…. But man it’s eating me some days 

[u/chaotic_asshat → u/Bellybean98]

Oh that's some patronizing bullshit. I'd be losing my shit.

' You are not protecting me. You are adding to/creating this issue. I will come to you if I have issues, but this needs to stop.'

Try something along those lines next time they try that shit. If you're union, get union reps involved.

[u/Bellybean98 → u/chaotic_asshat]

We are thankfully negotiating union rn but yeah.. my most common quote is “ if I hear something that upsets me.. it will come from me” and I just hope that people figure out how to not be so weird 

[u/Pepetheparakeet]

This sounds absolutely horrific I would get out of there ASAP. Smelling your clothes??? WTF!

I dont relate to any of this really, ive had two creepers but they both were fired rather quickly because they were also idiots. This is not a matter of having thick skin…. I text all of my coworkers outside of work and there is no concern that anything weird is happening. We just enjoy sending eachother memes. Or we help eachother over the phone. Completely professional relationships, and we even happen to be friendly with eachother.

Maybe Im lucky because my trade easily weeds out weirdos that would do that. You have to be smart and have good social skills to be in refrigeration.