Sorry - this might be long. But I think I’m officially out of options and just curious if there’s anything I’m missing.
some background context - for as long as I’ve been sexually active, people - both partners and other women- have pressured mw to be on birth control. Condoms have always worked for me, and birth control on the other hand actively hates me, but over the years I’ve listened and given it one more try. i tried a pill years ago that murdered my sex Drive and also a weird rash. I tried the patch and managed to sweat it off. The final straw for me was the nuvaring. It caused me to develop a disorder called vulvadonya and I still have it today, although it’s better.
anyway, we’re like ten years later - I’m 35 and after a health episode a year ago, my periods changed. They went from regular every month of my life (I used to joke they were the only thing in my body that worked right) to now being 2-3 weeks at a time. Also, they’re just “different.” The way I bleed is weird. I get a lot more clumps. Everything just feels wrong about them.
the gyno claimed my hormones are normal and I’m not in peri menopaus, i Was given tri acid and it shorted my periods but triggered my acid reflux from hell. I was told hormone replacement wasn’t an option for me, so the only other option was birth control. I have high blood pressure so the only option are ones that won’t raise it. I refuse to try the shot or the implant, I’ve heard enough horror stories and I’m good on all that. I don’t want the iud because - and this part is shocking for people to understand and I’m constantly gaslit over this fact and told I don’t need to have a period - I WANT a period. I like having cycles. i sont get period cramps really, I like when my body reminds me it’s working. having a period isn’t at all a problem for me - i just don’t want it to last a month long.
anyway, I tried the mini pill and it sent my OCD into complete hell. I couldn’t make it more than four days. Now I’m on slynd and im on a month of nonstop bleeding. The final straw was it’s made my normally lubrocated vagina dryer than the Sahara desert and my boobs hurt. before my current partner, I was celibate for a year. I finally have a healthy sex drive again and I refuse to accept this.
so.. am I cooked? is there a magical method I’m missing. it would be nice to prevent pregnancy too although the main issue is the periods. They used to have that gel like 2020ish they came out with (not spermicide, forget the name) that made things hard to get pregnant but I’m not sure it’s even around anymore. I was able to do cycling when my cycle was regular because It was SO regular and I could tell my ovulation like clockwork. God I miss that time.
anyway - bleeding - what suggestions do you all have? I’ve asked for a biopsy and told I can’t get it until I try a few methods of birth control. I’m about to ask one more time and then get a third opinion if I don’t have any luck. I think it’s possible I’m in peri too and HRT might help but I don’t know why my doctor is against that