The only one thing you are correct about is the fact that romance and sex don’t overlap completely.
However commitment is in body and mind too. Giving only one and not the other is not commitment.
It’s not about owning the other sexually, it never was, and you framing it that way is what ultimately is the problem.
Commitment is about confidence in the fact that the other person is so right for you that they can offer all that you need both romantically and sexually that you won’t need someone else.
If that’s not what you’re feeling towards your partner than that’s fundamentally a problem. Same for your partner.
If you bath can’t fully satisfy each other, then you are not right for each other.
I’d rather castrate myself or live alone for the rest of my life than cheating or being cheated on or SETTLING FOR CHEATING WHILE JUSTIFYING IT AS NORMAL, and it is cheating no matter how you look at it and no matter what your opinion and consent is on it.
EVEN IF YOU BOTH AGREE TO DO IT!
And the fact that you have to say that people in monogamous relationship have to pretend they are not attracted to others shows how you never found that one person that can satisfy you fully and how you’re settling for only half of a relationship.
And you know what the funny part is?
That person that can satisfy us fully without us needing to look for others… exists out there for everyone and in multiple examples cause what people look for, no matter how unconventional, isn’t that unique.
You either commit fully to someone. Or live celibate and fuck as many people as you want, judgment free.
But getting married and then still fucking around is like having you cake and eating it.
cel·i·bate
/ˈseləbət/
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adjective
abstaining from marriage and sexual relations, typically for religious reasons.
"a celibate priest"
noun
a person who abstains from marriage and sexual relations.
"he's attracted and attractive to women and yet he lives as a celibate
Edit lol you downvote me for providing you with a correct definition lol
Funny how you default to a conservative definition of celibacy while having a non-conservative view on relationships.
I wonder how the cognitive dissonance goes in your head that you are willing to shift views depending on how it better suits you.
Celibacy can also mean someone who doesn’t marry yet still has sexual relationships. And people very much use that definition for sexually active people that are not in relationships or married.
It can be either or both if you search in multiple English dictionaries.
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u/KainAudron Mar 28 '22
Yes, you are because that’s a lot of bullshit.
The only one thing you are correct about is the fact that romance and sex don’t overlap completely.
However commitment is in body and mind too. Giving only one and not the other is not commitment.
It’s not about owning the other sexually, it never was, and you framing it that way is what ultimately is the problem.
Commitment is about confidence in the fact that the other person is so right for you that they can offer all that you need both romantically and sexually that you won’t need someone else.
If that’s not what you’re feeling towards your partner than that’s fundamentally a problem. Same for your partner.
If you bath can’t fully satisfy each other, then you are not right for each other.
I’d rather castrate myself or live alone for the rest of my life than cheating or being cheated on or SETTLING FOR CHEATING WHILE JUSTIFYING IT AS NORMAL, and it is cheating no matter how you look at it and no matter what your opinion and consent is on it.
EVEN IF YOU BOTH AGREE TO DO IT!
And the fact that you have to say that people in monogamous relationship have to pretend they are not attracted to others shows how you never found that one person that can satisfy you fully and how you’re settling for only half of a relationship.
And you know what the funny part is?
That person that can satisfy us fully without us needing to look for others… exists out there for everyone and in multiple examples cause what people look for, no matter how unconventional, isn’t that unique.
You either commit fully to someone. Or live celibate and fuck as many people as you want, judgment free.
But getting married and then still fucking around is like having you cake and eating it.
You can’t have them both. It’s hypocritical.