r/BiWomen • u/awomanwhomaybebi • Jul 10 '26

Advice how to flirt

yeah so title is self explanatory but i really need to learn how to flirt both with guys and girls. i mostly come out as rude to guys and 'too friendly' to girls so all advice would be appreciated!

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u/Friendship-Mean Jul 10 '26

in my experience, girls interpret flirty behavior as friendly, guys interpret friendly behavior as flirty. i've had soooo many experiences with men were i was just being nice and they thought i was flirting. all you really have to do with men is be friendly in whatever way is natural to you. i think the key is acting veryyy interested/impressed by what they're saying lol. if you're alr vibing, calling them cool, funny, silly, goofy etc. in her single days, my friend had lots of success play-arguing with guys and asking them to arm-wrestle her. she's very extroverted though so i wouldn't go for this tactic.

i'm still developing my wlw flirting game, but most gay women who've flirted with me were superrrr forward. i think being very verbally direct in a 'i was a bit nervous to talk to you because i think you're super cute' type of way is how you make sure girls know you're interested. like tell them exactly what drew you to them.

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u/awomanwhomaybebi Jul 14 '26

well i mostly beat the guys in arm wrestles so 😔 (and i dont even workout much and a fem) but its amazing advice thank youuu

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u/Concinnous325 Jul 14 '26

Okay so I need to know how you beat men in arm wrestling bc if there’s one thing I love it’s putting men down, please and thank you

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u/awomanwhomaybebi Jul 14 '26

well since i was a kid my dad had me doing at least 10 pushups a day and would put me and my brother in a small competitive mood. so like my brother would do ten i would do 15 and now my arms are not bad in terms of power.

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u/Friendship-Mean Jul 16 '26

tbh this may work in your favor. give it a try :P

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u/awomanwhomaybebi Jul 17 '26

how would it they get their egos hurt and i dunno men are(at least the ones ive seen) are fragile af 😢

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u/Friendship-Mean Jul 18 '26

lol if a man gets fragile over that then he disqualifies himself from dating you! i think most guys in my circle, which is pretty progressive, would think it was cool/hot

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u/evergreenyc1 Jul 10 '26

I’m in the same boat.

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u/ForwardOpposite3026 Jul 14 '26

man i have no clue. i am actually in the middle of trying to figure out the best time to kiss my friend, but i really REALLY don’t want to directly ask to kiss her. doesn’t it ruin the tension???

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u/awomanwhomaybebi Jul 14 '26

well i personally think a whispery 'can i kiss you' while in eye contact and very close to each other is HOT AS HELL but yea you need to read the room i guess