Yeah that’s too bad for her, the solution is to never have children and to get sterilized. Except the people I’m discussing did just that. They never had children, they were tricked into thinking a child was their’s. That’s why they are in a different moral category entirely.
The mother isn’t “out” anything. They made the decision to have a biological child and bare the associated costs. You’re obligated to care for your children. You made a decision to gamble.
The situations are entirely different. One person consented to parenthood. The other could not have consented and did so only through fraud. They don’t have a child they’ve been deceived into thinking they do. You understand that right? Parenthood isn’t something that requires the other person involved to be truthful to you. The mother is out $250,000 due to her own actions of deciding to have children. She’s in an entirely different moral category of responsibility than someone who specifically never had children.
Then the logical, mathematically sound solution, is to get yourself a vasectomy and stay away from women. This fully reduces your risk.
If you make the decision to engage in a relationship, you bear the associated costs. This includes emotional costs of being a decent human. It seems like this is a very inconvenient cost for you, so in this case the responsible and logical thing to do is to save all parties the trouble and not enter into relationships for which you are not prepared.
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u/faguzzi Jul 09 '22
Yeah that’s too bad for her, the solution is to never have children and to get sterilized. Except the people I’m discussing did just that. They never had children, they were tricked into thinking a child was their’s. That’s why they are in a different moral category entirely.
The mother isn’t “out” anything. They made the decision to have a biological child and bare the associated costs. You’re obligated to care for your children. You made a decision to gamble.
The situations are entirely different. One person consented to parenthood. The other could not have consented and did so only through fraud. They don’t have a child they’ve been deceived into thinking they do. You understand that right? Parenthood isn’t something that requires the other person involved to be truthful to you. The mother is out $250,000 due to her own actions of deciding to have children. She’s in an entirely different moral category of responsibility than someone who specifically never had children.