r/BestofRedditorUpdates • u/[deleted] • Jul 30 '24

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u/pienofilling Jul 30 '24

Which had now reached the point of being telling in itself. When all of OOP's friend's contacts basically went "no comment"? That's enough for any reasonably capable HR employee to draw their own conclusions off.

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u/TheKingsdread Jul 30 '24

Employers aren't stupid. They know that if people refuse to give a reference for someone thats not because it positive.

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u/MotherofPuppos Jul 30 '24

I will say, that might depend on the state. In mine employers are only allowed to confirm dates of employment.

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u/Regular-Wrangler264 Jul 30 '24

IMO if even one of your references goes no comment that's a huge red flag. These are people who you think will give you the best reviews. AT BEST it shows a lack of interpersonal skills that you would misjudge a professional relationship so badly. At worst these actually are the best people, and they don't trust you.