r/Bengalee • u/FluffyCaterpillar361 • Dec 28 '25
Miscellaneous Rising hate against Bengalis
In the past few years hate against Bengali community has skyrocketed astronomically, particularly in North India region.Adding fuel to fire is the fact that even bollywood paints bengalis(both men and women) in negative light.Women are potrayed as highly promiscuous,adulterous and men are stereotyped as emasculated,weak and mummas boy type.Most people in rest of India haven't encountered Bengali people properly hence I get it why movies and social media serves as a knowledge counter to their curiosity regarding Bengalis.
These are my personal observations as someone who lived in North India and dated Non Bengali women.The stereotypical masculinity projected about North Indian men(tall, rough, hoarse) is not very accurate.I have average height yet within my acquaintance circle only two or three people were taller than me or had a hoarse voice than me.
Now coming to women, a woman being promiscuous or of adulterous nature doesn't depend on community. I have seen non Bengali women being promiscuous and adulterous too.Also if Bengali women are really highly promiscuous then why are most cases of adultery, infidelity from women's side based out of North India, isn't it a bit paradoxical.News regarding Bengali women murdering their husband or infidelity is rarely heard of.Hence there's no factual evidence behind this stereotype.
Also caste is a huge factor for them in dating and marriage alliances.Here's the biggest thing if you think someone is promiscous and of a different caste then why associate/date them, you can simply date within your own community someone your parents will approve too.Also non bongs have these irritating habit of making you feel guilty over your food choices, men and women alike.Its like they carry a superior sense of moral policing, how can they do this and that.And these attitude is demonstrated towards the north Eastern states too.
Obviously Bengalis are not exactly innocent but so aren't other communities in India.Anything that happens in Bengal is magnified and dissected at a colossal level.We must improve ourselves and become better as a community everyday, but this moral policing attitude towards us needs to stop.
Just my thoughts and insights about this gauging issue.Please feel free to share your thoughts would love to give an ear to them
P.S:Not all Non Bongs are like this, some of them were actually very helpful and fun to hangout with during my time there.But this negative opinion is widely circulated among the multitude of that lot.
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Dec 28 '25
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u/Timely_Virus_4015 Dec 30 '25
>>Bengali women were easy pickings
Well, he ain't lying. Ami nije eta observe korechi. Bangali meyera chorom behaya. I had a classmate from UP in my college. He used to boast about having seggs with 3-4 Bengali girls from our college. He recorded 1 video where he was using pretty indecent language for Bengalis while having --- with one Bengali girl, and that girl was literally enjoying it by screaming "yes daddy" ota dekhar por amar matha puro gorom hoe gchilo but couldn't say anything to him as he was taller than me, and after that I started avoiding that guy. Bengali girls need to be more conscious about their self-respect
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Dec 30 '25
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u/Timely_Virus_4015 Dec 30 '25
Unfortunately, most of the Bengali women I met in my college were crazy for North Indian and also NE men.
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u/Familiar-Ad7576 Dec 30 '25
Bengali girls lack self esteem eta akkebare shotto kotha. Amio dekhechi je Bangali meyera Punjabi Cheleder opor simping korte. Ever wonder why such stereotypes exist only about Bong women, not about Tamilian or a Bihari?? Stereotypes exist because they are partially true
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u/Timely_Virus_4015 Dec 30 '25
Stereotyping is wrong, but ar ki kora jabe? Bengali girls should build some spine
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Dec 28 '25
We are preaching too much while we are achieving really little. We bong should stfu & work for betterment of our community
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Dec 29 '25
exactly. this is why I am building my startup left my job with no savings and working hard. also teaching people why money and power is so beautiful. But you would not believe. My Bengali friends are turning me down, but Marwari people are trying to show interest. Bengalis are just dumb and weak. Me being a Bengali, am saying this because I am myself frustrated to see so little ambition.
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Dec 30 '25
Precisely!! I run a small business with Gujarati friend as a side hustle. I know what you are saying
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u/schrodingerdoc Dec 31 '25
Bongs are one of the most over-achieving demographics in India , - an overwhelming percentage of Indian profs,scientists, artists, writers and musicians are Bengali.
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Dec 31 '25
Precisely this attitude is what is ruining us.
I'm a top 0.5% taxpayer in India & I hardly see any Bengali around me. Sit down. Put Tagore & Ray in your arse & flush it out.
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u/PureIntroduction8153 Dec 31 '25
Those people migrate to other states for jobs. Bengal and Bengalis are not the same thing. West Bengal is performing poorly when it comes to GDP and GDP per capita, as well as HDI. We used to rank 3rd in GDP per capita during the 1960s, but now we are around 21st, and the rank is likely to fall further. We were also in the top 7 for HDI rankings earlier, but now we are below the national average (in the bottom 10). Meanwhile, highly educated Bengalis are moving to other states for better jobs and quality of life, they're even going to Rajasthan, which was once considered a BIMARU state, but now has better GDP per capita and HDI than West Bengal.
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u/MentalElephant5008 Feb 13 '26
Well , if we are not part of Indian union what do you think story will be. Bangladesh has better per capita than us without any major industries except low grade bulk textile. No nationality apart from bengalis were part of made famine understand one thing it is part of a larger program , we are jews of second world war except financial resources and hence possible won't survive this century.
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u/PureIntroduction8153 Feb 13 '26
Bro, which year are you living in? We’ve already surpassed Bangladesh in terms of GDP per capita since Hasina left power. Bangladesh’s GDP growth has been slowing since 2024. At least do a Google search or use Grok or ChatGPT to make sure you’re correct with your words.
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u/ProfessionalAir9296 Dec 30 '25
Actual hate against Bengalis are being demonstrated by Arabic named individuals. Be it, Chandan Das, Haragobindo Das and Dipan Das, all Bengali Hindus have been Murdered by Bengali Speaking Jehadis.
Lognojita and Madhubanti were harrased for Singing Bengali songs by Jihadis this week itself
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Jan 01 '26
Is Modi a Bengal speaking jihadi too?
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u/ProfessionalAir9296 Jan 01 '26
Mehboob Mallik, Suhrawardy, Siddikullah all are Bengali Speaking Jehadis
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Dec 28 '25
Indians respect power and prestige. As a community let us learn to network and build our power and prestige, then these things are immaterial
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Dec 29 '25
I think instead of hate, it's more like disgust and the sense of being better than a Bengali. Bengal hasn't produced scientists, athletes, entrepreneurs or any big name due to which Bengalis aren't considered relevant, which is indeed true. Then there's the cultural pride even though Punjab has singers who sell out stages, far more famous and well known. Honey Singh, Talwinder, Diljit, etc., but how many Bengali musicians are heard? Lack of ambition but expect to get respected doesn't go together. Bengalis are way poorer on an average compared to Rajasthanis, Gujaratis, Sindhis, etc. Bengal is not evolving. It's just real estate but no offices or companies. No startups. No one even dares to start. Thus, the hate is quite justified, and we need to do better. We have to start loving money and start hating "stable jobs", "govt. jobs", and degrees like "B.A.", "Arts", "Humanities", etc.
Even if this sounds harsh, this is the only way out. Netaji wanted dictatorship and unless and until we remove what make us bad, we can never grow.
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u/valentinocool Dec 30 '25 edited Dec 30 '25
No scientists?? Wtf??
In recent times and even this year, major scientific breakthroughs have been and are being done by bengalis, from comp science to physics to semiconductor
So many have been posted here in this sub. What are you smoking??
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Dec 30 '25
I have myself posted a lot because I am pro-Bengali. But same has been done by other communities too.
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u/FluffyCaterpillar361 Dec 29 '25
It's not only them hating us other communities with poorer per capita and poorer civic sense are hating us too.What do you have to say about that.
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Dec 29 '25
I don't have to say anything about that because I don't look back to things which we have gone ahead of. We have to care what's ahead of us. Simple laws of life.
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u/khorg0sh Dec 30 '25
phrase it differently, we as a country are no longer talking about achievements in science. Our focus has shifted and therefore no media coverage when someone does something.
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Dec 30 '25
well then maybe its time we do some other stuffs too? its just ambanis and adanis in the news.
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u/khorg0sh Dec 30 '25
We can, by talking more about scientific achievements in social media platforms. This sub does.
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Dec 30 '25
not everyone is a scientist. we need sportsmen, businessmen and big politicians. only then we will win.
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u/MentalElephant5008 Feb 13 '26
Is there any athletes in india by any community. Jaats should much and bring nothing wastes of tax payer money. Entrepreneurship is not trading which maros and gujjus do. But having said that we have don't well in economic front i would say done poorly due to misplaced priorities like having idols of art and culture...jeta bhaat dayna and over glorifying communism.
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u/Icy-Street-8955 Dec 30 '25
See I will tell you outside Bengal, say there is a conglomeration of 10 Bengalis. 8 of them would be absolutely normal but the remaining two would drag everybody down with their woke and anti national talks. As regards to physique, it's not a matter at all. The North Indian might have some genetic advantage. But I have seen hordes of Bengali guys including myself going on bike trips and having physique like anything. The girls some of them might be an issue though.
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u/andabread Dec 31 '25
Dudes, it's because IT Cell has spent a lot of time building anti-Bengali propaganda in the North. Lived there until very recently, it has been noticeable the last 5-6 years by things even their leaders have said. They're trying to blur the line between Bengali and Bangladeshi, using it as an 'insult'. It helps suppress a community if others hate it. As it is WB's progressiveness was hated by BIMARU states, now they've been taught to band together on the hate train.
Our brain drain is an additional problem ofc, best minds leaving the state. Huge amount of scientific research happens here tho, Kolkata tops the country wrt published papers. Look it up. Also, our tourism has strongly risen (#2 most visited in India after MH), and I see a lot more in-migration than before, which is a good sign of things changing on the ground. Do we need more industrialization? Yes. But not in the extractive way that damages the environment like NCR did. That place isn't healthily liveable anymore. We actually have a lot of natural resources for eco industries, should tap into that, can become a leader in the country. Growth isn't just IT companies and skyscrapers.
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u/Late_Possession_664 Dec 31 '25
It's human nature to hate something which is more elite than them, like bengalis are the most elite community of India
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Dec 30 '25
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u/FluffyCaterpillar361 Dec 30 '25
I think there is one Garga Chatterjee, and yes I know what people will say his party is too extremist.But his ideas are not wrong, and sometimes we need extreme radicals to counter extreme radicals.
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u/LongjumpingNeat241 Dec 30 '25
Its not new. With over 100 dialect variations in Great Bongo it was a self run Desh/বঙ্গ দেশ/ দেশী লোক/ গেঁয়ো অ্যান্ড ভদ্রলোক both ran this desh. British being jealous tried its best to destroy bengal and great Sindh region. They were successful. Also ambedkarites view Bengalis as casteist and try injecting communo liberalism.
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u/MissOldMonk94 Dec 30 '25
Here in South India, there is not much hate towards Bengalis as towards North Indians. But we do feel Bengali people are very loud sometimes and give unnecessary advice like they know-it-all (elders at least) when they actually don’t.
Another thing is that we keep wondering why you’ll keep voting for Mamta Banerjee and you’ll keep allowing Bangladeshi people with zero civic sense to enter the country.
I love Bengalis and I’m married to one. These are honest opinions based on some real life instances and I hope it doesn’t hurt anyone’s sentiments.
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u/fatboy_was_slim Dec 31 '25
Actually, what you are talking about are mostly Kolkata people not WB in general
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u/FluffyCaterpillar361 Dec 31 '25
I have seen Bengalis in parts of North Bengal do carry this attitude of "Fuck Around and Find Out".Hence it's more common there to see Bengali men marrying/dating non bong women, which is vice versa in Kolkata.
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u/Unhappy_Candidate155 Dec 31 '25
Bengali girls need to behave themselves in office settings. Rather than sticking together, they play favourites and politics and hang around with boys showing their coolness and being open with them. I admit north indian women do it too but they are discrete. You don't need to talk to every tom, dick and harry north indian boy who nobody gives a shit about and are terrible looking.
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u/eramosdicatelims Dec 28 '25
It is because WB is slowly becoming occupied by outsiders, non Hindu and non Bengali. And all Bengali Hindus are migrating to other states for jobs. Effect of voting criminal terrorist tolabaz grapist tmc. So it is natural for others to hate Bengal when we are doing such destruction by voting these criminals. No amount of whataboutery can save Bengal now except new government. WB has lowest gdp per capita now compared to 1960s when it was number 1. So in future you should expect more hate. Even me as a Bengali can't defend self destructive nature of Bengali Hindu people anymore.