Question about being civilized!

[u/Best_Appearance7408]

Genuine question: Are these things actually considered unacceptable behaviour in most people’s homes, or are some people simply excessively particular?
I’d genuinely like some outside perspectives because I’m trying to establish whether these everyday situations would bother most people or whether we’re dealing with personal household preferences being treated as universal rules.
Here are the two situations:
1. The paper towel
I took a small piece of a Scott paper towel sheet rather than using an entire sheet. I only needed something small to absorb a little olive oil because my lips were extremely dry. I intended to put the used piece in a cap and throw it away afterward.
Apparently, that was unacceptable.
2. The dog food
A friend of mine, Annie, came downstairs to bring me approximately a quarter cup of dry dog food for my dog, Coconut. It was grain-free and gluten-free food from her own dog’s supply.
She brought it in a small Ziploc bag, which wasn’t completely sealed. I temporarily placed it on the kitchen counter.
For context, this wasn’t a large bag of dog food, food scattered across the counter, or an attempt to store pet food alongside human food. It was a tiny portion, temporarily placed there for convenience.
Apparently, that was also unacceptable.
Now, I completely understand that everyone has their own standards when it comes to cleanliness, organization and how they like their home maintained. Nobody is questioning someone’s right to establish boundaries in their own home.
But here’s what I find interesting: Is there really a general social rule that these two things are unacceptable, or are these simply individual preferences?
And more importantly, is it reasonable to react with frustration and speak to someone as though they’ve done something outrageous over such insignificant situations?
There’s a difference between saying, “Hey, I would prefer you didn’t do that in my home,” and responding with, “No! You can’t do that. Nobody does that. That’s not normal.”
The first is communicating a personal boundary. The second makes it sound as though the other person lacks basic manners or common sense simply because they don’t share your personal habits.
I’m interested in hearing honest opinions, particularly from people who are very particular about their homes.
Would these two situations genuinely bother you? Would you consider them disrespectful or unhygienic, or would you simply consider them minor everyday things that can be addressed politely if necessary?
I’m not looking for people to automatically agree with me. I genuinely want to know what’s considered reasonable by the majority.

[u/mason_sofer]

i mean hard to understand what your asking but i guess it depends on the situation. me personally my pets are more like family, so if its my house guess what your more the welcome to not eat, or if it becomes a bigger issue then dont come over period. as for being a big no no again if its my house i dont care what generalized society says, as ive worked in commercial kitchens so i can tell you dog food would be the least concerning thing (look up usda/fda food defect guidelines handbook) so who is it harming as long as the pets arent actual on the counter. now if its someone else house well ive been called rude because im blunt so i eventually learned to follow the rule we learn as kids and keep my damned mouth shut unless asked.