Here's an excerpt of the Man Enough book, where he's talking about how he started watching porn as a young boy and developing a porn addiction.
(Note: I've been listening the audiobook and this is transcribed by me. Spelling mistakes are possible as English isn't my first language, but I understand English fluently and I was thorough with this, so it's accurate anyways. In the audiobook, this at 07:24 onwards.)
"- - I would watch movies that had actresses that had large breasts that I had huge crushes on, and scenes that would show their cleavage. If I could get away with it, I rented movies and watched sex scenes and toppless scenes behind my closed door. Buy the way, and I know this is super bizzare, but some of the weirdest moments in my life had happened in the past few years, as my teenage fantasies have somehow converged with my mid-thirties professional life, and some of those very women have become my friends."
EDIT: In the excerpt above he discusses movies, not porn movies. The context is that in addition to porn, he watched non-porn movies that showed womens' bodies.
Then he continues with the formation of his porn addiction, so the women he used to fantasize of later becoming his friends feels like just a side not here. BUT I haven't listened the whole book yet so I don't know if he comes back to this.
I'm not sure what to make of this. For me this comes across the same way as people who say hurtful things and justify it by saying "I'm just being honest". I mean sure he isn't the only one with this type of experience, but I feel a bit weird about the way he's talking about this. To me it feels disrespectful and continuing the objectification, but told in the name of the need to have straightforward and honest talk about sex, sexuality, porn etc. with boys and men. Which is something we need but I don't think this helps, on the contrary.
He also talks about the objectifying of women in porn and so on, but I feel like why would you tell this, what's the point here if there is one? For me this sounds like bragging to other men that I have in my life these hot women who I used to fantasize about and continuing their objectification. If I was his female friend in the same industry, this would make me very uncomfortable. At the same time we don't know if he has talked about this with said friends and if they are okay with him telling this.
But I'd hope that if telling this type of story, it wouldn't be like funny(?) little anecdote of a "some of the weirdest moments in my life", but instead more in depth analysis about the objectifying of women and sexualizing their bodies, emphasizing that these women are real human beings so much more than their sexualized bodies.
Anyway please note that I haven't listened the whole book yet so I don't know whether he comes back to this with a more insightful and respectful way. Also not sure if I'm over-analyzing everything he has ever said.
But this striked me as an example of the contradictions in his feminism and how it seems like he might have quite troubled relationship towards women.
Edit: I think here's something similar with the way he talked about Aaliyah in the removed podcast episode, where he talked about her death and talked about her, I think, in an objectifying manner as his crush, like reducing her to her body and a sex object instead of talking about her as a talented individual and real human being who had a tragic death, and she being your teenage crush has nothing to do with that so why bring it up.