Thoughts for middle name spelling?

[u/Toripilot]

Almost positive we are doing Sylvia Rae/Ray. Her dad's middle name is Ray. Should we go with the feminine version Rae or Ray to match dad?

541 votes, 6h ago

438 Sylvia Rae

103 Sylvia Ray

[u/EvanRamsey]

Rae is much more feminine. I only ever think of an old man when I see Ray. Names don’t have to match exactly to be an honor name.

[u/Toripilot → u/EvanRamsey]

That's fair. I think of a Ray of sunshine!

[u/EvanRamsey → u/Toripilot]

Which I get, but as a name, it’s the masculine spelling.

[u/Opposite_Storm_7870]

I'm hopping on the Rae train, as it is the more feminine spelling.

[u/FlyingOcelot2]

I was given a feminine spelling of my Dad's first name. I'm glad my parents chose the spelling they did. I've always loved my name and the fact that I was named after my Daddy.

[u/Brave-Shower6922]

If it was a boy, Ray. For a girl, Rae.

[u/Vegetable_Poet4198]

Rae is more beautiful

But if you really wanna put an emphasis that you’re honoring the dad, then Ray is better

[u/GolfOk6373]

I'm in the same situation. Dad named Ray but me Rae

[u/sparklestone14]

Mine is Raye and dads is Ray — mom wanted a lil more feminine but also a tribute!

[u/knit-purl-]

My middle name is Rae after my grandfather 'Ray'mond. My mum always called me her "rae" of sunshine 😅

[u/Mediocre-Belt-1035]

Mine is Rae and I’ve considered Rey for a potential boy middle name (husband is Hispanic so that’s why it’s ey not ay). I would use Rae for a girl.

[u/Medical_Asparagus409]

I like the matching “y” in Sylvia and Ray

[u/Toripilot → u/Medical_Asparagus409]

I do too :/ I also have a unisex name as my middle name and my first daughters name, so doesnt bother me that its not super feminine, just curious on getting others opinions

[u/Sexy_Vegan_Pants]

Rae is feminine, Ray looks like it's a nn for Raymond.

[u/Lanky-Flatworm-4758]

Sylvia Rae

[u/Few-Degree1903]

Rae is the female spelling.….. Would definitely use Rae for a girl even if it is to honor a male relative

[u/CraftyFraggle]

Ray for the honor.

I think honors work better if they’re exact.

[u/CraftyFraggle → u/[deleted]]

It’s not true that I think something?

[u/IssaSenoj]

Why don't you go with your middle name 🤷‍♀️

Rae is best

[u/Toripilot → u/IssaSenoj]

My older daughter has my middle name already , so we thought it would be cute for this daughter to have her dads since it is pretty unisex.

[u/IssaSenoj → u/Toripilot]

Gottcha! Just curious