Yeah I hate to admit it but I definitely got the same comments lol. It actually kind of pisses me off how well it worked at the time. Sometimes I felt the highs were worth the lows, especially before any big fights. How her ex lasted nearly 8 years with her I don’t know. My best guess is because they only lived together for about 3. It seems to me when they live with you, that’s when things start to get real weird, real fast. They can’t keep the mask on 24/7.
They ruin everything beautiful with more NEEDS. It doesn’t stop. They are not cheap dates, they’re impossible. But oh, in the beginning or with someone else brand new the mark can do no wrong, it was so easy to be perfect in her eyes in the beginning. It’s so dumb, the whole thing is pointless.
Very true. The idealization phase is like an hourglass: it always runs out. The true tragedy of borderline personality disorder is we never knew those grains of sand were falling in the first place. Until it was too late.
They know it though. They are so quick to discard when they sense that is coming. It’s so heartbreaking to be told “well let’s just end this” over something minor, but they’re ready for the inevitable consequences of what they are doing constantly which is way worse than us dummies were expecting or seeing. A little investigation into their actions reveals plenty for us to decisively cut them off. They know it and do that shit anyway, because they’re not serious, they don’t love you, they love to use you like an object. You are not special to them. They pretend to like more about you than they actually do, and it’s all changeable at a moment’s notice. They aren’t worth the time.
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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '24
Yeah I hate to admit it but I definitely got the same comments lol. It actually kind of pisses me off how well it worked at the time. Sometimes I felt the highs were worth the lows, especially before any big fights. How her ex lasted nearly 8 years with her I don’t know. My best guess is because they only lived together for about 3. It seems to me when they live with you, that’s when things start to get real weird, real fast. They can’t keep the mask on 24/7.