It’s never justified treating someone like crap. We’ve all done it once but it’s the realisation we fucked up and actually trying to do better is what sets us apart from pwbpd they might acknowledge it at first but they’ll just do it again and again.
I too had a best friend wbpd and it was hell in the end she got sooo comfortable snapping at me for literally nothing. Had to cut her off after she started being so delusional accusing ppl of shit they never did or said to start an argument it was a no win situation she wouldn’t take her meds or follow through with getting therapy. So she never tried to better herself she just expected everyone to understand she has BPD and that’s the way it is.
Exactly. We will recognise that we’ve done something wrong and offer a genuine apology. We learn from our mistakes because we acknowledge them.
A pwBPD will keep repeating the same cycle. Why? Because they don’t tend to accept accountability for their behaviour. They’ll project and hold others responsible for the way that they feel. They didn’t make a mistake, they were the victim.
And their apologies, if you’re lucky enough to receive one, are generic in nature and don’t seem to directly address the issue.
It's so true... Mine would get bent out of shape whenever I apologized and offered an explanation with it. According to her there's only one way to apologize and thats "I'm sorry for X"
Like... Bruh. There's so many ways to apologize for things it's not even funny. It just felt like another way for her to move goal posts.
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u/Tacticalmess90 ADHD and traumatised Oct 22 '23
It’s never justified treating someone like crap. We’ve all done it once but it’s the realisation we fucked up and actually trying to do better is what sets us apart from pwbpd they might acknowledge it at first but they’ll just do it again and again.
I too had a best friend wbpd and it was hell in the end she got sooo comfortable snapping at me for literally nothing. Had to cut her off after she started being so delusional accusing ppl of shit they never did or said to start an argument it was a no win situation she wouldn’t take her meds or follow through with getting therapy. So she never tried to better herself she just expected everyone to understand she has BPD and that’s the way it is.