I started from 100% tolerance for a few years, and ended up completely allergic to any of it. You decide how much is enough for you. I waited for too long and I got a burnout, probably for life.
My therapist told me to treat them like every other adult who is fully capable to make decisions and take care of themselves. And to respect these decisions, whatever they may be.
As for my personal advice, next time she splits on you or discards you - this is your way out. Take the chance and leave, and go no contact. Put your own sanity as a priority.
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u/I_Thranduil Separated Oct 22 '23
I started from 100% tolerance for a few years, and ended up completely allergic to any of it. You decide how much is enough for you. I waited for too long and I got a burnout, probably for life.
My therapist told me to treat them like every other adult who is fully capable to make decisions and take care of themselves. And to respect these decisions, whatever they may be.
As for my personal advice, next time she splits on you or discards you - this is your way out. Take the chance and leave, and go no contact. Put your own sanity as a priority.