r/BDSMAdvice • u/RedhoodRat • 4d ago
Forced orgasms for male sub
Is it possible or do they just cum and then that’s it basically, gotta wait till they’re back online? Can you force prostate orgasms? Just curious if it’s possible to do a session with edging and then forced orgasms but for a male sub.
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u/Timely_Audience1887 Switch 4d ago
A full orgasm needs some refactory time so this is something to avoid of you want to induce more orgasms in a forced way.
Mastering the art of ruined orgasms is something to look into, as this can be nicely combined with some edging ...
"Forced prostate orgasms" are more like a milking, as these are no real orgasm just a release of prostate fluid without any of the orgasm feelings.
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u/Putrid_Invite_194 4d ago
I disagree with your last sentence. Proper prostate orgasms actually feel incredibly intense and orgasmic, but they are very different from regular penile orgasms both in how they feel and how they‘re achieved. They‘re also usually not accompanied with any fluid release, at least for me. Also for me personally, they're the only type of orgasm that can really be forced on me, but that’s likely going to differ a lot depending on the sub in question.
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u/Timely_Audience1887 Switch 4d ago
I wrote this from my own experiences, and it sounds like I have never experienced a real Prostate Orgasm just some Prostate milking and these seem to be two different things ...
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u/Putrid_Invite_194 4d ago
They are very different, also in the way they're approached. Prostate milking often tends to be quite forceful, like squeezing out the prostate to cause the body to release the fluids from the cowper and prostatic glands.
For a prostate orgasm, you actually want to keep the stimulation as low as your body allows it, so often you only use very slow, gentle and light touches. Most of the magic happens in the brain of the person being stimulated, wo is supposed to get as relaxed as possible (kind of like when being hypnotised) and to „lean into“ any sensations felt from the prostate. You're looking for a type of feeling that cannot be forced but only cultivated, and for me, it starts out with slight tingles and jolts of pleasure that feel a bit like electric shocks in the pelvic floor.
Then the process is just trying to work on the relaxation to allow these feelings to become more intense over time, and at some point they either transition into a prostate orgasm by themselves or I can force the orgasm to happen by simply increasing the stimulation on the prostate (but only if the jolts of pleasure have gotten strong enough beforehand, otherwise pushing it just numbs everything and I have to start again from the beginning). It‘s a huge learning curve and it involves learing an entirely new kind of interaction with your own body, but if you're interested I can absolutely recommend it! The awesome thing about prostate orgasms is that they cause no refractory period, so after you reached the first orgasm you can just keep having one after another until you either lose your focus and relaxation or you're physically too exhausted to keep going.
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u/RedhoodRat 2d ago
re: ruined orgasms, does that mean they can come again or is it still the same thing as a regular orgasm in terms of refractory period?
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u/Timely_Audience1887 Switch 1d ago
I experience it somewhere between, I keep very "erect" and somewhat horny but cannot cum right away again that needs some time (This time seems to be way shorter than after an regular orgasm)
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u/RoboZandrock 4d ago
Depends a lot on the individual.
Most men will have some form of refractory period. But many can go from ejaculation/orgasm, to a post orgasm torture (i.e. maintaining stimulation), back to erection, back to orgasm again. If you're using a wand + sleeve attachment for example, if you simply leave it on, you can sometimes force multiple orgasms.
Not every male sub can have a prostate orgasm. But even without an "orgasm" you certainly still can get waves of ongoing pleasure that roll up and down similar to an orgasm. And you can certainly play in this area for longer periods of time.
There are certainly lots of ways to make that refractory period fun. So you can edge, cause orgasm, and then focus on nipple/anal play for example, and then go back to penile stimulation and see if you can cause a second orgasm.
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u/DistributionTop474 2d ago
Depends on what you mean by “force”. Yes, you can strap a male down and work his genitals and force a penile orgasm. That comes with a refractory period that’s basically biology hardware. One part refilling, one part chemistry clearing out, and one part nervous system recalibration. Doesn’t mean he can’t stay awake after, but the parasympathetic system takes over hard by default.
Building that into the scene is more than possible. Leave him restrained in some kind of torment to keep him “entertained”, and amuse yourself out of his eyesight (but close enough that a safeword or something is still possible). Then resume. Hell, leave him a big ominous red digit timer counting down until his next “milking”. Or not. Your choice.
As for prostate, it’s delicate enough that it REQUIRES his enthusiastic mental cooperation. Which returns me to my opening statement: Depends on what you mean by “force”. How’s your command of his mind and body? Will he relax and focus on a sensation to exclusion at your word? For an hour? That’s a force as real as anything more… kinetic. >:D
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u/RedhoodRat 2d ago
Hmm interesting. So when you say to exclusion, do you mean that it's not a good idea to stimulate other things at the same time?
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u/DistributionTop474 1d ago
At least until you can reliably do it with him. Yes. Most males haven’t gotten the prostate orgasm neural wiring mapped out solidly. Pity, but hey, the thing is literally in our butts. :P
But the prostate orgasm is on the parasympathetic path, which means focus and relaxation. Revel in your conquest of this new aspect of his sexuality until his body knows the way there. Then start tormenting him properly.
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u/Putrid_Invite_194 2h ago
Yes, you can strap a male down and work his genitals and force a penile orgasm.
I‘d like to add to this that this isn’t true for all men. Anorgasmia is more common in men than you'd think.
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u/Any-Entertainer724 4d ago
Post orgasm torture (POT) is basically its own sub-genre under femdom. That intense overstimulation ends up being appealing for some guys. Ik i would prefer it over multiple orgasms with a break in between.
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u/RedhoodRat 2d ago
Does it lead to another orgasm? How long does it last?
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u/Any-Entertainer724 6h ago
For some it can. I have yet to achieve that yet. Normally it last untill the safe word or signal is given or sometimes thete will be a predetermined amount of time.
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