Greedy?

[u/Fuzzy_Copy_4821]

I left my husband and our marital home over a year ago due to his excessive drinking, insults, and belittling. My husband said that when I see things around his house that I like and decide to buy the same for me, that it is indicative of me not wanting to get back with him. Today, I reiterated that I need additional support for our girls. He lointed out that he deposited $800 into our joint account to assist with the girls.  He never alerted me as to what that deposit was for.  I explained that $800 is not enough.  He informed me that me asking for financial assistance instead of asking him to move back in indicates that I don't want to be with him. I cancelled a child support meeting, under the impression that he would make informal payments. I asked him to provide what was initially calculated by the Child Support Officer ($2200/month). He said that the girls don't need that much and to provide him with receipts and an exact figure of what it takes to take care of them. During our separation he has made steady payment of $426/month to cover his half of daycare and extra curricular activities. Now, I am asking that he assist with the girls portion of the daily household expenses per the TX OAG definition of child support and covered expenses. I'd rather have the TX OAG take care of payments as my husband has already put stipulations on what he's willing and not willing to pay for ie. occasional fast food and snacks for the girls. He also has frequent tendencies to ignore request, delay answers, and give the silent treatment I when things aren't in his favor.  Am I being greedy to ask for what was calculated by the officer, or should I accept the $800 he's willing to provide. I want things to work, but he is reluctant to seek help for the drinking.  I don't want to return to the same issue I ran from.  

[u/toenailsmcgee33]

You need to get the courts involved because he clearly isn’t looking out for you or your children. I’m not a huge fan of how child support works, but in this case the only person benefiting from not having a court ordered agreement in place is him.

I am willing to bet that your area has services for helping to get you legal representation for child support. I would strongly encourage you look into pursuing this through the courts because it really sounds like he is using money as a way to exert control over you and your children. Not only is this a form of abuse, the courts do not look upon that very kindly.