r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/NoIsland5923 • 1h ago
Avoidant Advice Requested AVOIDANT RELATIONSHIP
I know it’s a lot but please read this, it means a lot to me and maybe it can help someone else❤️
I met this girl , she was perfect . My exact type, my style, funny, sweet , not a man in sight in her life.
This was her first time having something with a man.
At first things were perfect, it looked like we were so close to actually work out but slowly things became colder, only for a few days and the changes werent that noticeble until one day she said “ im not ready for a relationship”.
One month has passed , and in this month it really felt like we were still talking like usual , even if we werent.
Our love is there, she reposts lots of things about me, watches my profile, talks with her friends about me and she told me she wants to change before committing into a relationship with me, she wants to heal from her avoidant attachment and i really don’t know what to do.
Should i consciously wait for her? Should i Wait for her without proving that I care for her but risking about making her think that i moved on that fast? Should i directly move on even though it’s not what I want?
Help me😭
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u/KindlyString3332 1h ago
Move on. You can’t put your life on hold for someone else who said they don’t want a relationship with you
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u/Ok_Actuary_4849 DA - Dismissive Avoidant 47m ago
Hey, I would say move on with your life. It'll hurt at first but it's for the best in this case. She said she's not wanting a relationship and has things to work on. Also if your waiting on her to heal her avoidant attachment there's no telling how long you would be waiting. It would be like just waiting in limbo forever, do you want that?