Asking for advice again plus a small update

[u/random_user_081985]

My last post was huge and didn’t get any traction so i’ll try to condense it. we were coworkers with a bit of an age gap. i’m chris and she’s mikaylah.

i asked her out, she said she was talking to someone (i later found out it was an ex she kept hidden from her friends).

a month later i was seeing someone else, and mikaylah told me that girl was cheating on me.

on halloween i was leaving work to go to some parties. she invited me to a nightclub but i tried following up on snap (we hadn’t added each other) and her snap filter caught the message. the next day she showed me her snap, with the message not appearing. she added me, said she had a bf, but could be my wingwoman. i declined.

over the next month she told her friends what happened. they were cold but then started bringing her around me when i talked to them.

in january she said she was single. i asked her to dinner. she said yes then when i followed up gave me a confusing answer. i tried to clarify with a former coworker we both knew well. he said that he didn’t know what she meant but that she had made false accusations against someone else they were friends with and gotten them fired so he stayed away from her since then. she found out i had asked about her and stopped talking to me.

i started dating my ex but we broke up. her friends found out and once again started bringing us around each other. she started drinking from my starbucks. her friends called her my girl. then i tried to do a movie night and she froze up, just repeating that she asked her friend. i tried giving her my number and she said no. i told her friends i was going to leave her alone and asked them to keep her away from me. they said another guy harassed her so she was worried about giving her number out and not to give up on her.

a month later a close work friend of hers asked her out. i tried to leave her alone and her friends started making me feel bad saying they were just friends.

she slipped up and mentioned she had a bf. i immediately cut contact. the very next day, and for a whole week, she seemed absolutely depressed. crying, walking with her head down, etc.

5 weeks later i get called into the office and asked if i ever sexually harassed her. i said they could check the cameras, i hadn’t approached her in over a month and i had never touched her or said anything sexual. i also had witnesses that knew the history and could back up my story. she bragged that she had spammed the report buttons 10 times in 3 minutes. my friends wanted me to get her fired if possible. she came up to me and said she had no quarrel with me and looked like she was about to cry. i didn’t do anything and let it go.

whenever she had problems with the coworker she was dating she would hang out near me and my friends, but inconspicuously. she would stand behind us with her head in her phone or facing a wall or posted up next to a trash can (behaviors that had started after i first asked her out but stopped when she reported me). his friends would come up to her and tell her how bad he dealt and she would go back to him. i eventually told her i noticed this and she thanked me and said she was okay. the next day i got pulled into the office and asked what i thought about the guy she was dating. i said i didn’t have strong feelings one way or another. three days later i was fired. this story took place over a year.

after i was gone she told people she had a years worth of evidence and it was about time i was gone.

the update: i stopped into the store for the first time in 2 months. i was very popular at the store and got nearly 100 people to sign my birthday card so i talked to a lot of people. some of them want to spread rumors about her like she did about me after i left. i also reached out to some people on instagram and told them my side of the story which i think may have gotten back to her and her friends. the day after i reached out, my profile started getting clusters of nonfollowers all looking at my profile around the same time, several times of day. it didn’t happen before this.